Mindset

A Strategy for Happiness

We think that happy people and unhappy people are born that way… Both will do and live in a way that strengthen those mindsets. Happy people will continue to enjoy the mindset that helps them thrive and enjoy life. Unhappy people will continue to think negatively and self-destruct doing and accepting things to upset them.

How does a successful business operate? They have a plan and purpose for their business. They have defined their purpose and created a strategy to accomplish that purpose. The same approach can be used by people in their daily lives. Define what it is you want and create a strategy to attain it.

When a business has a planned strategy they have a buy in from their employees, they are passionate about the purpose. Everything they do in their daily operation is geared towards taking strides towards attaining the goal. Every challenging moment in the business is just another experience as a lesson to gain knowledge for improvement. All of the decisions are measured and recorded to teach the employees that the failure is a steppingstone towards success. In order to succeed you have to know what failure is. I say again…. In order to appreciate the successes you have to know what it feels like to fail.

On a personal perspective you have to have a life purpose and passion. Waking up every day knowing that you are passionate about something and you will do anything to get there. The first task involved in getting there is the mindset you will adopt daily. A true positive mindset is key in every success. To be happy every day with a purpose is so important. It gives you sustainability and strength. Nothing will get in your way. The energy you will need to fulfill your purpose is the passion you have. Life is full of experience. You cannot control what is externally influencing you on a daily basis. What you can control is the perception you have towards it.

We have to take a student’s mindset in life. We will take tests and fail but we get a chance to study more and the next day take a retake and pass. IF we wake the next day we will take into the new day the experience we need to succeed. The mindset we need to have every day is that we have a new day when we wake a new.

I find myself afraid of my creative soul sometimes. It wants to do what I am afraid of trying. I talk to my soul to find out what direction to go in and it points towards the unexpected. The dreams and vision my soul has for my me is too high and the person my soul sees as fulfilling this dream cannot be me! I question myself. I am unsure if my ability to measure up to my soul. I ignore it. I continue being sub-par. I continue to just get by. My soul is angry and it feels trapped in a cage. I get sick because of the turmoil inside of me. My moods are not normal because I cannot tap into the wisdom of God that is in my spirit. I try and figure it out with my conscious efforts knowing that the truth is inside of me. In order to listen to my soul I have to be brave. My soul is fearless. It wants to fly without wings. It wants to walk on water. It wants to walk through fire. It wants to punch Mike Tyson in the face. My soul is instinctively courageous. My soul wants to create the unimaginable.

Everyday I contemplate what my life would be like if I just listen and follow instructions. My passion resides in my soul. My soul intimidates me. My soul is powerful and fearless. I am more afraid to not listen and at the end of my journey I will spend the last few moments in regret.

Oh my soul direct my path… I Love You and Trust You.

I have not written in a while. I am not a hypocrite. I would
not feel right if I posted something to try and encourage all of you when I
feel like shit and am going against all my own advice. I know who and what I am
I am to not pretend to be someone I am not. I have been challenged to say the
least in my mind. I have taken on the mindset of a whining complaining little
bitch.

I am 50. I have my health. I have wonderful children. I have
my mother still alive and healthy full of life. What the heck am I letting this
stupid depression and anxiety kick my ass. I can sit here and make excuses that
it is out of my control. That is what the psychos told me in the past. I was
prescribed all sorts of medications to deaden that voices in my head. I turned
into an emotionless person. I just lived my days to get to the slumber hour.
When I woke the next day is when I had to do it all over again. I practically
ignored all of my amazing experiences because I did not want to experience all
those variety of emotions.

I want to feel the sadness and be challenged with turning
that emotion to happiness and appreciation because I chose to. I want to feel
the pain of tragedy because I want to appreciate what I had before the loss and
be thankful for having it.

We are in a society where we feel entitled. We feel that
everyone owes us something and we always want to blame someone for our pain. We
do not take responsibility when someone does not want to associate themselves
with us any longer. We want to be blunt and “ourselves” not thinking of the
people around us who are affected by our actions.

We should all have our own identity and be ourselves but
there is a time and place for everything. We sit on our high horse judging everyone’s
actions and lives as if we are grading others around us and our lives are given
a free pass. How disgusting it is for others to sit back and act as if they did
not know someone is affected by their behavior and selfishness. How ridiculous
is it for a group or an individual to impose their beliefs on others as if they
are right and the world is wrong. It is a difference of opinion.

I get angry at humanity because everyone wants to act as if
the other person is at fault for the world’s problems instead of taking responsibility,
holding themselves accountable and taking action to improve themselves and the
world around them. With technology today everyone finds it easier to hide behind
their keyboard and send cryptic anonymous messages attacking others. I respect
the true protestors that put themselves in harm’s way in order to make a
statement. A statement with non-violence. A statement against wrong.

Where are we headed? I make all of these observations and
statements in this article and probably sound like I am upset and angry. I am
not. I am n to a hypocrite. The more I experience the pain of my fellow human
being suffering the more I have to feel love and compassion. I cry in my heart
for everyone to love more. I scream for people to just give a little. To hold
back from judging one another.

We all have our faults. Own them. Have some compassion and
understanding for one another. Love one another and be forgiving. Do not judge
so quickly. Do not be a hypocrite.

I offer my life as an example. I offer my humble truth to
hopefully teach someone to deal with life differently to ultimately be happier.
My passion in life is to teach others happiness.

I Love You. 

Stress and Your Imagination. 

Sometimes the thought of an event or situation happening can
be enough to give you a heart attack. I know there have been many situations in
my life where I got myself all worked up for a time in my life where I did not
need to be worried about. We want everything to be ok and we hope for the best
but we sometimes if not most times imagine an outcome that is far removed from
the actual result.

We spend hours and lose sleep over worrying that it will be a certain way…. When in reality the outcome is out of our hands only the perception of how we feel about it is in our control. Events and situations are just that, the stress attached to those things are out of our imagination. We do not need to feel if we do not want to. 

To prove to you that this is the case….think of how many time you have felt stress over something that never materialized or, if it did materialize, ultimately turned out to be to your benefit. If you only knew from the beginning that it would have turned out in your favor, how much more pleasant could your life have been? That is the way you can approach all situations. 

Expectations

You should not be surprised at whatever you see or hear….. If you are ready to accept things as they are, you will receive them as old friends. 

­­-Shunryu Suzuki

To come to this state of mind takes work. Like weight
lifting you have to put forth some effort. Small exercises daily practicing the
changi9ng of your perception towards situations and events in your life. The
daily repetition of accepting yourself as you are in any place. Accept that you
have arrived there and then decide to take a different course. Decide you want
to climb Mount Everest and succeed. To climb that mountain takes training, hard
work, commitment and determination. You have to live fearlessly.

Changing a comfortable perception and way of thinking is
scary. It takes courage. Most people cannot just do it for themselves, they
need help. I know for myself I have always attributed any successes to my
courage to accept the help from someone else. The letting go of pride to listen
and learn. The teaching sometimes came from the most unorthodox places. We have
to look outside of our own understanding and trust our instinct and intuition.
We have to love ourselves first accepting who we are.

Obstacles

Another part of a strong and healthy philosophy that allows us to create happiness in our lives has to do with how we look at obstacles. One of the reasons that any obstacle in your life is so that you can grow from it and become strong. You know the old saying that a chain is only as strong as its weakest link. Well, you’re only as strong as your area of greatest weakness. 

Our greatest anxiety comes from imagining a bad result
coming from a situation in our life. Anxiety and stress turns into physical
illnesses and issues. We are killing ourselves by reducing our ability to heal
from this stress by overloading ourselves with this burden. If we were happy
and laughing in the face of adversity we could be alleviating the stress we
have on us and healing. Our bodies will have the energy and resources to fight
off disease and negativity in our environment. We would have the strength to
help others.