Mindset

I often write of the perception we have in our
lives. I believe that we have a choice to observe and decide whether it is a
positive or a negative experience. We have the ability to create that emotion
on the fly. This emotion that we create can affect our health and or wellbeing.
This random choice we have can affect others around us. It is random because we
change into any state of mind at any given time.

Changing from one extreme to another is destructive
to our psyche. We take our bodies through highs and lows and extreme emotions.
These emotions are very powerful. Emotions are not just feelings, emotions are
energy that is created or re-directed and transformed into a physical property.
Emotions are energy, energy is a physical property. Our cells are comprised of
energy. Therefore our emotions are intertwined to our physical make up. Our
emotions and bodies are one in the same not a separate entity or thing.  

In order for us to stay healthy and have a clear
mind we need to regulate this creation of energy in our emotional states of
mind. If we are constantly looking positive energy, which is positive emotions
we will be at peace with ourselves and our energy will be a healing energy.
Positive emotions trigger healing and produce positive processes to be started
in our bodies. We are able to focus because we are in a calm state of mind.

When we create a negative emotional state of mind
our bodies are stressed out the majority of the time. We are burdening our
bodies with chasing the bus. We are always trying to catch something. In
essence we are running a marathon listening to a voice in our earphones telling
us we aren’t good enough, we are slow, out of shape, we are going to fail and
quit.

Every morning we should be waking up smiling and
looking at what the day will bring us. When we wake every day we should be
contemplating how we are going to be happy in any situation. I share with
people on a daily basis that they have the ability to decide happiness and joy
with the power within that realm of thought to heal themselves. The majority of
people tell me that it is a new age thought or religious believes. They are not
religious nor do they believe in any philosophy of ideas where there is no
scientific proof. They believe my way of thinking is just hocus pocus.

What I teach is science based. Changing your
mindset. Creating thought and treating it as you are creating a physical
manifestation of something out of energy. Energy IS a physical property. That
is science. It is not just an emotion or thought. It is a thought and an
emotion but yet it is also a “thing” we create.

Be aware of what you are thinking today. Be aware of
what you are creating today. You have control of that process. You are in
control of your emotional state of mind. Change it. NOW! Hurry! 

Why don’t we live fearlessly? As I look back at my life I realize my experiences were created by me. At some point or another I set into motion a chain of events that were directly responsible for something happening to me. I was recounting this notion I had for many years that every new car I purchased was always christened with an accident within the first year. That is exactly what was happening. For quite a few years every new car I purchased ended up having an accident whether it be small or substantial. As I looked back at the first incident I realized that I immediately thought it bad luck when I was in my first accident after which I began to worry about being in a car accident. I worried so much that when I purchased my first new vehicle, I was paranoid about getting in an accident with my new car! I did!

Every flu season I worried about getting sick like everyone else. I dreaded having the nasal thing, the stomach thing, the everything! And what do you know I got sick! It’s like if my body had accepted the inevitable, agreed, complied and gave in.

In my career I worried always about business being so slow that I would be laid off from a company that never laid off in my position. I was laid off. I started to notice a trend in my thinking. At the time I did not know what it was. I had not been introduced into this way of thinking nor the science. I just knew I always received what I asked for. I started to think I was psychic! How funny is that? What I did not realize is that we all have this innate intuitive ability. We have the ability to create our experience. I was creating all this negativity in my life because I was worried about the worst case scenarios happening to me.

I have mentioned in my writings that I have suffered from depression. For the most part I have been free from that. I know it is a medical condition and I cannot do anything about it. I know it exists and will continue to exist if I do not do anything about it. I do not believe in taking medications for it and I have been criticized for sharing my thoughts on the way I believe depression can be dealt with. I truly feel if someone works towards changing their mindset anything is possible. We capable of so much. We can achieve miracles in our life. We have the capacity to heal ourselves. The majority of the world’s population does not know how to do this. We are conditioned to accept less than what we really are.

I see and hear so many people complain about how they have wasted their lives making mistakes and how they could have done things differently. I had the same philosophy. I realized that I have spent the last 50 years of my life learning who I am. No I am hurrying up to learn how to be courageous enough to live the life of the person that I truly am. I did not know how to live fearlessly.

I dream big. I have visions of myself being this bigger than life person being able to live fearlessly. At first I thought it was a fantasy that I could ever become this giant bigger than life person. As I started to explore this reality that is played out in my mind I began to accept how possible this person is if I just live my life without fear. Most of us try to live our life comfortable with no risk. We are so used to avoiding confrontation in our lives. Not the confrontation of violence, to live fearlessly is confrontational at its core.

Living fearlessly is living life listening to your passion. Working outside of the parameters doing something you love and enjoy life while doing it. That in itself is a risk worth taking….. Isn’t it? Think of your passion. If you can live doing what you love the rest of your life would it be worth a sacrifice of working your butt off to making it work? Where there is a will there is a way! Make it happen. Dream! Imagine yourself already doing it and believe in it with all your heart! Condition yourself into seeing that image every day. Don’t worry about how, Live Fearlessly!

Why do people give up? I know it is hard to wake up every day and be positive when your environment teaches you to be upset and judgmental. Why can’t we just decide to face our challenges every day in a joyful manner knowing that we do not have control over the external circumstances but we do have full control over our perception of those experiences?

I know personally I have to open my eyes every morning aware of the negative energy I feel from all the people that are around me in the community I live in. Not everyone is a happy camper. I always have to surround myself with positive energy. I have to bath myself in love every day to combat the attacks I get bombarded with. I am writing this for you to understand that you can protect yourself everyday with love. It is very easy.

How do we protect ourselves? Well… it is as easy as say to yourself… I Love Myself and Everyone around me. I understand that everyone comes from a different mindset and not everyone can just switch on and off the array of various emotions we go through daily. But we can practice every day to feel one emotion. All we need to be good at is one emotion and that is happiness or joy. A feeling of peace and Love. The decision is easy. It is very easy. The maintaining of the emotion is the work.

Practice every morning when you awake being aware that you have to feel happy no matter what the pressing challenge is that day. If you know you have a challenging day ahead of you it is what it is. You will have the challenge whether you are happy or not but you will ultimately have to face that challenge. If you awake upset about it you will still have to face the challenge eventually in the day. If you wake up happy and positive towards the challenge you will still have to face the challenge at least you are in a positive state of mind during the experience. You will not have wasted time being in a negative state of mind.

Switching your state of mind is easy. Maintaining it because of your perceptions of your external circumstances is the work you have to put in to condition your mind to maintain.

As always I Love you and always always hope the best.

Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness

Simply put Forgiveness is the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense, releases negative emotions such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender well. What Forgiveness is not? Or different from?

• Failing to see the action as wrong and in need of forgiveness.
• Not holding the offender as responsible for the action.
• Granted by a representative of society, such as a judge.
• Removing awareness of the offense from consciousness.
• Removing awareness of the offense from consciousness.

Forgiveness is given without an agenda, expectation or to partake in any future exchange.

• In some instances the offender will acknowledge the victims forgiveness and offer the apology after. This would add to easing the transition of the victim from pain to peace of mind. It is not needed once the victim has made a choice to change the mindset or perception towards the situation.

Forgiveness is a mindset and in essence nothing else is needed. It is a choice to let the experience be a negative or not. It is a perception to allow the experience to bring forth pain or not. It is a choice to take on the experience as a life lesson and a reference point to reflect back on.

World Health, Medical, Behavioral Science research indicate that forgiveness promotes dramatic increased positive effects on the mind and body. People who release their resentment and negative feelings towards past events or experiences have increased benefits and less deterioration in cardio vascular and nervous systems. More positive results in a reduction of stress, physical manifestations of stress and increased vitality. People are less likely to be easily angered, hurt and be more optimistic through tough times.

Self-Forgiveness is another story. Environmentally we are conditioned to fear the accountability and to be responsible for our actions. Therefore we run from this “facing the music”. Keeping this guilt, resentment, regret and remorse towards our own actions is unhealthy. We are unhappy because we do not want to face the pain. We think that if we do not let it out and release it, out of embarrassment it is the lesser of the two evils. The embarrassment after acknowledgement is temporary. The pain and damaged caused by keeping this turmoil inside is life changing and permanent to the point of life threatening illnesses caused by the physical manifestation of stress.

• Releasing this pain is healthy. As I pointed out that the acknowledgment causes temporary pain after which you can work on restoring and renewal. It is like physical exercise, you have to work hard to see improvement. You have to sacrifice temporarily in order to see results. In exercise if you keep eating unhealthy and yet still know you are in denial… you will further deteriorate and can cause life threatening illnesses and up to death because of. The short term is to sacrifice, get in shape and then the long term is positive rewards of quality and longevity of life.

We need to love and forgive others. Let go of the pain and discomfort inside of us, It is so damaging. Focus on the good in your life. And if you think there is no good? Take stock. Write a list of the good things and bad things and compare. If your perceptions guide you to write a longer list for the bad things then start working on creating more good situations in your life. Start surrounding yourself with more positive people and remove yourself from the negative environments. There is a way for everything in life. It is now bad do you want it? How bad do you want to be happy? How much longer are you going to be making excuses to be unhappy? I spent a lifetime of helping people become happier and solving their issues with their perceptions, all along my perceptions needed work. I needed to be happier myself. I was not taking my own advice continuing to be in toxic situations and environments that did not help me grow. It is my faith in God that allowed me and drove me to continue to help people. But it was my own misunderstanding that I could apply what I teach to my own life.

(If you are suffering from depression then read my articles on depression) Clinical Depression , Depression Denial Treatment , Depression Facts & Statistics , How to Deal with Depression

As I searched deeper in my mind to why I was not happy the source of my despair was that I was not forgiving myself. I did not see myself as a good person. Because of my inability to love myself I was hurting people in my intimate relationships. What really struck a nerve is when the people I helped succeed in their happiness were the ones that ended up being my teachers and mentors to a happier life. That was rewarding and sad at the same time. I humbled myself and took the counsel and improved. We are an ever evolving species.

We are capable of so much. We are always hungry to learn something new and we thrive on receiving and giving Love. The only way to learn in life is to accept who we are and love ourselves. Forgiveness is a big factor in this journey to happiness. You will learn that once you decide to be happy, forgiveness is a key component to the journey you will take towards sustainable happiness. That is the hard work.

As always. I Love You.