Mindset

How to Live in the Present

When I look in the mirror I am very critical. I want to be the best me I can be. I know I have my failures and I am very aware of the imperfections that compose my character. I know that my imperfections make me. I accept all of me all the time and I am happy to be me. If I am a person that helps others I need to love myself and appreciate where I am at in the present. I cannot be wishy washy and unsure of who I am.
I have been helping people deal with their demons and depression for many years. I am not a professional but I have always been a go to person for anyone and everyone. Since I was at a very young age I have been a magnet for this stuff. I never turn people away. Years ago when I was suffering from anxiety and depression I would help people as I would flirt with suicide, self-destructive attitudes and no one would know this. Yet I never turned anyone away. Why? Because I believed if I turned someone away, someone would turn their back on me one day. This has happened to me. Helping people and seeing them improve is an amazing experience. Changing the perception and mindset of someone with a toxic way of thinking is very rewarding. It is not about my ego I find enjoyment it is the satisfaction that someone will not feel what I was feeling anymore.
Today I am happy. My mindset is positive 85 percent of the time. I am always going to struggle with my depression and anxiety. I found out it is in my genes. It is hereditary and in the makeup of one of my parents. I cannot deny this. I have to embrace it to the point where I am aware of it so I can see it as it arrives in my consciousness. It is like a huge dark cloud on the horizon. You see it coming and you prepare. You get everything ready and prepare for the worse. When the storm comes you get what you get and try to come out of it alive and with minimal damage. You cannot avoid the storm. It is on its way. There is no running from it. So prepare for whatever is going to arrive. It is like death. It will come eventually. Prepare for it. Do not worry about it because it is inevitable. Enjoy the now. Give yourself an opportunity to thrive.
I teach Happiness. I do not solve people problems. I observe the mindset of people and help them with their awareness of the deficiencies in their happiness. I truly believe that if we are happy we can solve any problems and address situations with a clear and focused plan. If our thoughts are organized and open to flexibility we can grow. IF we are positive we can grow! Yes. We have the capacity in that state of mind to look back and learn from the minute before. We can be happy in the present and appreciate the relief we feel and the negativity is an afterthought. If we practice this on a regular basis we can condition our minds to remain in the positive mindset because it is more natural and feels good.
I make it sound very simple. It is simple to make a decision to be happy and it is very hard work to remain in that state of mind. But like anything else in life we have to work hard to reap the rewards of training. When I look in the mirror I see a man that has been through a lifetime of experiences. I see a person that knows how to love unconditionally. I can truly look at my “enemies” and love them. They are not enemies. They are my brothers and sisters that have not yet experience awareness of who they are and where they are in the present.

The point here is to love yourself. Accept your present. Do not expect anything except to love and be loved. Live today. Appreciate the present and use the experience of awareness and teach others.
As always I love you! I am here for you. I write for you.
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Is anybody happier because you passed their way?

Is anybody happier because you spoke to them today?

Were you selfish plain and simple as you rushed along your way?

Or is someone mighty grateful for a deed you did today?

Can you say in parting with the day that’s slipping past

You helped a single person in the many that you’ve passed?

Is a single heart rejoicing over what you did or said?

Or is someone whose hopes were fading,

Now with courage looking ahead?

Did you waste a day or lose it, was it well or poorly spent?

Did you leave a trail of kindness, or a scar of discontent?

As you close your eyes in slumber, do you think that God would say

You have one more tomorrow for the work you did today?

Anon
May your life be filled with love, happiness and inspiration

Rochman Reese and Sofan Chan

For many years I was afraid to be alone. I felt that if I was alone I wouldn’t be happy. That is why I am writing this post, How to be Happy Alone. There are so many reasons people justify being unhappy. One is they are lonely. The other is How to be Happy at work…. that is another post altogether. How to be Happy Alone is the main reason people fall in to depression. Loneliness is a big suicidal cause. Or at least the perception of being alone.

Fear is a root cause to many of our reasons we justify our unhappiness. Fear of being around anyone leads to alienating ourselves, which causes us to be alone, leads to depression and loneliness…. and so on. Being happy is only a perception we have to work on. Conditioning ourselves is work but it is very rewarding. We can decide to be happy right now and then the rest will take care of itself. Yea! It is that easy! But the work is hard. But with anything it takes hard work for us to enjoy greatness.

One thing is to surround yourself with positivism from the time you wake up in the morning. Go on Google Search Engine and type in “How to be Happy Quotes” and save them to your phone and read them everyday. You can always subscribe somewhere and get them emailed to you. If you want to learn how to be happy with yourself you need to learn how to love yourself. How to love yourself is a decision….Yes there it is again. A Decision. How to be Happy Alone is predicated upon you deciding to love yourself. I know I am repeating it over and over… That is how it is done. Conditioning of your mindset to learn How to be Happy!

I hope I gave you a little tidbit here on How to be Happy Alone. How to be Happy with Yourself and How to be happy with YOURSELF!

I Love You! there is material in my archived posts. I hope you will take the time to read.

I hope everyone reading this is finding a way to be happy in life. I sincerely hope with all my love and energy you are all in a place in your life where you know you have control over anything between the cranium in your head. That you have control over the thoughts and perceptions you constantly create. Everything you receive from all of your senses you have the control over how you feel about it.

I write in this blog to reach someone and or anyone that could learn from my words and outlook in life. I have my critics and people that think I am not qualified to give advice or write about happiness. I think that if someone loves themselves enough to help others is more than qualified. If your stated of mind is that of a crazy person and yet you have the love and compassion in your heart to help…then you are qualified. That is my opinion of course. I have my opinion and you have yours. Love is for everyone.

I love you and want to reach out to you. I love you and want you to be happy. That is the purpose of my existence. I want to love everyone the rest of my life. You should have the same purpose in life. You can apply that philosophy towards your passions in life. If you are an artist then you will pour all of your love into your art to express to the world. If you are a doctor then you will pour all of your love into healing people. AND so on…. You get the point. Love one another through your passions.

I love you even though you do not love me. I love you even though you see me as a threat or I annoy you. I love you unconditionally. I love you even though you hate me.

We are so capable of changing our perceptions and yet we hold on to the past, stress out about the future and look past the wonderful things and people we can experience right in front of us. Wake up. I Love you.