Acceptance

How to Live in the Present

When I look in the mirror I am very critical. I want to be the best me I can be. I know I have my failures and I am very aware of the imperfections that compose my character. I know that my imperfections make me. I accept all of me all the time and I am happy to be me. If I am a person that helps others I need to love myself and appreciate where I am at in the present. I cannot be wishy washy and unsure of who I am.
I have been helping people deal with their demons and depression for many years. I am not a professional but I have always been a go to person for anyone and everyone. Since I was at a very young age I have been a magnet for this stuff. I never turn people away. Years ago when I was suffering from anxiety and depression I would help people as I would flirt with suicide, self-destructive attitudes and no one would know this. Yet I never turned anyone away. Why? Because I believed if I turned someone away, someone would turn their back on me one day. This has happened to me. Helping people and seeing them improve is an amazing experience. Changing the perception and mindset of someone with a toxic way of thinking is very rewarding. It is not about my ego I find enjoyment it is the satisfaction that someone will not feel what I was feeling anymore.
Today I am happy. My mindset is positive 85 percent of the time. I am always going to struggle with my depression and anxiety. I found out it is in my genes. It is hereditary and in the makeup of one of my parents. I cannot deny this. I have to embrace it to the point where I am aware of it so I can see it as it arrives in my consciousness. It is like a huge dark cloud on the horizon. You see it coming and you prepare. You get everything ready and prepare for the worse. When the storm comes you get what you get and try to come out of it alive and with minimal damage. You cannot avoid the storm. It is on its way. There is no running from it. So prepare for whatever is going to arrive. It is like death. It will come eventually. Prepare for it. Do not worry about it because it is inevitable. Enjoy the now. Give yourself an opportunity to thrive.
I teach Happiness. I do not solve people problems. I observe the mindset of people and help them with their awareness of the deficiencies in their happiness. I truly believe that if we are happy we can solve any problems and address situations with a clear and focused plan. If our thoughts are organized and open to flexibility we can grow. IF we are positive we can grow! Yes. We have the capacity in that state of mind to look back and learn from the minute before. We can be happy in the present and appreciate the relief we feel and the negativity is an afterthought. If we practice this on a regular basis we can condition our minds to remain in the positive mindset because it is more natural and feels good.
I make it sound very simple. It is simple to make a decision to be happy and it is very hard work to remain in that state of mind. But like anything else in life we have to work hard to reap the rewards of training. When I look in the mirror I see a man that has been through a lifetime of experiences. I see a person that knows how to love unconditionally. I can truly look at my “enemies” and love them. They are not enemies. They are my brothers and sisters that have not yet experience awareness of who they are and where they are in the present.

The point here is to love yourself. Accept your present. Do not expect anything except to love and be loved. Live today. Appreciate the present and use the experience of awareness and teach others.
As always I love you! I am here for you. I write for you.
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Letting go of the stress. We often hold on to things that do not matter. We listen to all of the criticisms and take them to heart. Our society can be a very judgmental place. We allow ourselves to internalize negative experiences when we do not have to. The decision to allow is up to us. It is so easy for me to tell you to not let things get to you but there is a process to this that we need to learn before we can condition ourselves to do so.

Before we can be a steel wall against the bad perceptions in our lives we need to have confidence in ourselves. In order to have confidence in ourselves we have to love ourselves. Loving ourselves is easier said than done. If we look in the mirror we always see our pain or the most recent thing we are thinking about. We look into our eyes and we cannot lie to ourselves. We are there. We are alive. We are ready to snap at ourselves. We have to remain focused and give our self a chance to breathe away from ourselves. We make excuses for our pain and challenges. We do not take responsibility nor do we accept that our unhappiness is of our own doing. For the most of us we are self-destructive. Everyone around us suffers and we are selfish. We take the notion that everyone is to blame for our unhappy thoughts and experiences. We do not realize how powerful we are and that we have the capacity to change our world at any given time. Sometimes after we make the decision it is instant sometimes the change happens over a period of time.

Where do we start? How do we change our lives? Again I go back to being happy. Before we can be happy we have to love ourselves. Practice writing down on a piece of paper all of our good qualities every day. At least write these descriptive words about ourselves twice a week. We have to Get in the habit of speaking good things about ourselves because that is the best way to condition or positively brainwash ourselves. That is pretty bad that we have to brainwash our self to believe we are good people. We are. We are powerful!

Record your voice on your smart phone and listen to yourself speak well of yourself. Make a video… I can go in circles with this. I know so many people that are in denial that they are unhappy with themselves. They are also the most negative people I know. They smile, laugh and give excuses for their challenges. They are convinced that their plight is worse. You tell them of your situation and or challenge and they give a response that is letting all know they don’t care because it is not about anyone else but them at this point. They want to manipulate the conversation always about them. This is not done in an intentional manner. It is innocent because they truly believe that are in a worse place than you. At this point all we can do is show them unconditional love and remind them how amazing they are and that we have control over everything. Which we do.

We have control over every perception that comes in our conscious. We have the ability to discern what is healthy and unhealthy. A challenging experience is not always unhealthy…. It is an experience to learn from. We grow with challenges. We have to accept them as a growing experience. Some of these growing experiences are not pleasurable, like tragedy or death. We know they are a part of a life cycle and we are destined to experience this emotion several times in our lives. We will lose contact with loved ones for many reasons other than death. These are life changing experiences that can be perceived as bad. We have to always hold dear our relationships as positive experiences no matter the duration.

Healthy “positive” experiences are the same as “negative” experiences. We have learned to accept each one of them oppositely. We learn from both. We embrace both experiences. One way or another we grow from both. We have to always remember this. We also have to remember it is within our power to change our course to grow out of all of our experiences.

I opened this article with letting go of the stress. We have no choice but to let go. Life should not be stressful. We have one go around according to a humanistic opinion. With all of our beliefs removed at our core we are here once and we need to “make the best of it” I know that is cliché. But it is very true at the root of the statement. Making the best of it is in your hands how you perceive that phrase. When you decide to go forward to explore what your next step is…. Think of what is important. What type of perception has to be in place and what has to be removed from your working conscious?

Love yourself for who, what and where you are at the present moment. Accept that whatever situation you are currently in you made a decision at some point that led you to that point. After you have accepted….. Decide. Decide what it is you want going forward. The only thing you should want is Happiness. Ask for it. Be passionate about this request. In your mind decide that this is the most important thing in your life that you have to achieve on your bucket list. This is the focus the rest of your life. This choice you make to be Happy is internal and cannot be gained through external situations or circumstances. This “happiness” has to become your essence before you can take anything on.

I hope this article has giving you some peace if you are struggling. I always end with Love for all of you. I truly hope that my thoughts bring some relief or hope.

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Consistency. Why do we procrastinate? I for one do it because I get side tracked. Is it a conspiracy from SATAN? No… Maybe… But for sure we allow the media and all the different things around us taking us away from what we love to keep our focus on. For instance….. We watch the news right now and what are we seeing? Violence, terrorism, war and so forth. We turn off the TV or internet and we keep thinking of that. We worry. We analyze. We are distracted and then we become complacent. We do not continue. WE become inconsistent. There are so many things that keep us from what our focus is. The main thing is our fears. I have spoken about fears.

Fear is the deciding factor in our daily lives. Either we are too afraid to try or we are too afraid to say no or yes. We are too afraid to make a decision to be happy. We are too afraid we might hurt someone to give ourselves a chance. We are too afraid to stand up for ourselves. We are too afraid to have faith. Faith is a very loaded concept.

Faith is a mindset. We believe something that is not yet there and yet we know with all of our strength and courage that it is there, it will be there and there was never a doubt. Faith should be all consuming. Faith is courageous. Faith is a sign of strength. Faith takes balls. Faith is challenging.

Challenges. Wow. One leads to another. Fear, is overcome by faith, faith takes courage, and challenges are a joke when we apply the aforementioned. What a concept. The question is… What are we having Faith in? God, Some form of God, Ourselves, Ourselves as God (like).

We all have our beliefs. I have mine. All I can opinionate is that we all should have faith in the mindset that whatever it is that created and sustains us as a species in the vast universe, We are cut from the same cloth. As a parent gives life to their child, the child grows up to become just like the parent. We are created from a piece of what created us. If the universe is so powerful, hence we are likewise in that respect. There are mysterious things that happen that we only see through a telescope, but we have our universe inside of us in the micro. We are capable of producing the same energy that the macro universe creates. It has been proven that we are very powerful and yet we are too busy worrying about what is less important. We are distracted from our own truth.

If we only knew as a collective species the amount of pressure we could put on all evil we would have a very happy place to coexist. Instead we live in fear, and that is the distraction that keeps us unhappy. Unhappiness breads a chain of negativity. One dominoes another. It all begins with one soul. Since we are all connected all it takes is one bad disease to infect the rest. The opposite holds just as true. One positive smile is infectious. One good deed is rewarded with a pay it forward mindset. Eventually it becomes contagious. But if we allow fear to cloud our perception then any actions taken will be worthless. We can smile, be happy and blow smoke up our ass believing that we can pretend. But if we do not feel it and believe it truly we will always fail. And failure is not an option if you want to break this negative cycle.

Love. Believe it or not, is the answer. What a cliché. But it is the truth. LOVE! Is what holds us together. If there wasn’t a small amount of love in this world left it would be gone. After you read this (all 3 of you) go love someone. Someone you wouldn’t expect to express it too. Make it meaningful and sincere. A small gesture is huge in someones perception of you not loving them. If you do not understand everything I have written then you are not ready. Your loss. I still Love you.

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