anxiety

How to be Happy – Be Love

We come into this world full of love and looking for nurturing. We receive the environment that we are born into. During our infantile years we learn to accept our surroundings as the norm. The more we mature towards the adolescent stage we become our environment. Some are special enough to distinguish the two experiences and classify as bad or good on their own based on their soul. The majority are taught to accept the current state as normal. 

Children are more resilient than adults. Children are fearless. Children will accept a task and sprint towards achieving success. They will fall brush off and continue on. They will accept that they have to strap a bomb to their chest and are convinced it is the right thing to do for their innocent senses have accepted the environment as being. They see nothing wrong with what they are taught for they know nothing else. 

I am sure there are other situations where a child is brave and they will do anything to protect loved ones. Anything means giving their own life and they truly believe it is honorable and they are protecting because of it. 

We are love from the beginning. I have an extreme example of how innocence can be manipulated and in the eyes of the innocent there is no wrong. They make a decision and act based on the current state. They do not negotiate or reason. They adhere to the command not out of fear but out of loyalty and love. 

We do not protect our children enough. Instead of thinking positive and encouraging at a maximum level we teach them how to be insecure, fearful. We teach our children the bad habits that we learned that aided to our current state of suffering. 

We should be teaching our children Love. After they learn UNCONDITIONAL Love then everything else falls into place because there will be an absence of fear. 

Teach Love and practice it everyday. Truly believe that Love heals. 

How to Live in the Present

How to Live in the Present

When I look in the mirror I am very critical. I want to be the best me I can be. I know I have my failures and I am very aware of the imperfections that compose my character. I know that my imperfections make me. I accept all of me all the time and I am happy to be me. If I am a person that helps others I need to love myself and appreciate where I am at in the present. I cannot be wishy washy and unsure of who I am.
I have been helping people deal with their demons and depression for many years. I am not a professional but I have always been a go to person for anyone and everyone. Since I was at a very young age I have been a magnet for this stuff. I never turn people away. Years ago when I was suffering from anxiety and depression I would help people as I would flirt with suicide, self-destructive attitudes and no one would know this. Yet I never turned anyone away. Why? Because I believed if I turned someone away, someone would turn their back on me one day. This has happened to me. Helping people and seeing them improve is an amazing experience. Changing the perception and mindset of someone with a toxic way of thinking is very rewarding. It is not about my ego I find enjoyment it is the satisfaction that someone will not feel what I was feeling anymore.
Today I am happy. My mindset is positive 85 percent of the time. I am always going to struggle with my depression and anxiety. I found out it is in my genes. It is hereditary and in the makeup of one of my parents. I cannot deny this. I have to embrace it to the point where I am aware of it so I can see it as it arrives in my consciousness. It is like a huge dark cloud on the horizon. You see it coming and you prepare. You get everything ready and prepare for the worse. When the storm comes you get what you get and try to come out of it alive and with minimal damage. You cannot avoid the storm. It is on its way. There is no running from it. So prepare for whatever is going to arrive. It is like death. It will come eventually. Prepare for it. Do not worry about it because it is inevitable. Enjoy the now. Give yourself an opportunity to thrive.
I teach Happiness. I do not solve people problems. I observe the mindset of people and help them with their awareness of the deficiencies in their happiness. I truly believe that if we are happy we can solve any problems and address situations with a clear and focused plan. If our thoughts are organized and open to flexibility we can grow. IF we are positive we can grow! Yes. We have the capacity in that state of mind to look back and learn from the minute before. We can be happy in the present and appreciate the relief we feel and the negativity is an afterthought. If we practice this on a regular basis we can condition our minds to remain in the positive mindset because it is more natural and feels good.
I make it sound very simple. It is simple to make a decision to be happy and it is very hard work to remain in that state of mind. But like anything else in life we have to work hard to reap the rewards of training. When I look in the mirror I see a man that has been through a lifetime of experiences. I see a person that knows how to love unconditionally. I can truly look at my “enemies” and love them. They are not enemies. They are my brothers and sisters that have not yet experience awareness of who they are and where they are in the present.

The point here is to love yourself. Accept your present. Do not expect anything except to love and be loved. Live today. Appreciate the present and use the experience of awareness and teach others.
As always I love you! I am here for you. I write for you.
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Letting go of the Stress

Letting go of the stress. We often hold on to things that do not matter. We listen to all of the criticisms and take them to heart. Our society can be a very judgmental place. We allow ourselves to internalize negative experiences when we do not have to. The decision to allow is up to us. It is so easy for me to tell you to not let things get to you but there is a process to this that we need to learn before we can condition ourselves to do so.

Before we can be a steel wall against the bad perceptions in our lives we need to have confidence in ourselves. In order to have confidence in ourselves we have to love ourselves. Loving ourselves is easier said than done. If we look in the mirror we always see our pain or the most recent thing we are thinking about. We look into our eyes and we cannot lie to ourselves. We are there. We are alive. We are ready to snap at ourselves. We have to remain focused and give our self a chance to breathe away from ourselves. We make excuses for our pain and challenges. We do not take responsibility nor do we accept that our unhappiness is of our own doing. For the most of us we are self-destructive. Everyone around us suffers and we are selfish. We take the notion that everyone is to blame for our unhappy thoughts and experiences. We do not realize how powerful we are and that we have the capacity to change our world at any given time. Sometimes after we make the decision it is instant sometimes the change happens over a period of time.

Where do we start? How do we change our lives? Again I go back to being happy. Before we can be happy we have to love ourselves. Practice writing down on a piece of paper all of our good qualities every day. At least write these descriptive words about ourselves twice a week. We have to Get in the habit of speaking good things about ourselves because that is the best way to condition or positively brainwash ourselves. That is pretty bad that we have to brainwash our self to believe we are good people. We are. We are powerful!

Record your voice on your smart phone and listen to yourself speak well of yourself. Make a video… I can go in circles with this. I know so many people that are in denial that they are unhappy with themselves. They are also the most negative people I know. They smile, laugh and give excuses for their challenges. They are convinced that their plight is worse. You tell them of your situation and or challenge and they give a response that is letting all know they don’t care because it is not about anyone else but them at this point. They want to manipulate the conversation always about them. This is not done in an intentional manner. It is innocent because they truly believe that are in a worse place than you. At this point all we can do is show them unconditional love and remind them how amazing they are and that we have control over everything. Which we do.

We have control over every perception that comes in our conscious. We have the ability to discern what is healthy and unhealthy. A challenging experience is not always unhealthy…. It is an experience to learn from. We grow with challenges. We have to accept them as a growing experience. Some of these growing experiences are not pleasurable, like tragedy or death. We know they are a part of a life cycle and we are destined to experience this emotion several times in our lives. We will lose contact with loved ones for many reasons other than death. These are life changing experiences that can be perceived as bad. We have to always hold dear our relationships as positive experiences no matter the duration.

Healthy “positive” experiences are the same as “negative” experiences. We have learned to accept each one of them oppositely. We learn from both. We embrace both experiences. One way or another we grow from both. We have to always remember this. We also have to remember it is within our power to change our course to grow out of all of our experiences.

I opened this article with letting go of the stress. We have no choice but to let go. Life should not be stressful. We have one go around according to a humanistic opinion. With all of our beliefs removed at our core we are here once and we need to “make the best of it” I know that is cliché. But it is very true at the root of the statement. Making the best of it is in your hands how you perceive that phrase. When you decide to go forward to explore what your next step is…. Think of what is important. What type of perception has to be in place and what has to be removed from your working conscious?

Love yourself for who, what and where you are at the present moment. Accept that whatever situation you are currently in you made a decision at some point that led you to that point. After you have accepted….. Decide. Decide what it is you want going forward. The only thing you should want is Happiness. Ask for it. Be passionate about this request. In your mind decide that this is the most important thing in your life that you have to achieve on your bucket list. This is the focus the rest of your life. This choice you make to be Happy is internal and cannot be gained through external situations or circumstances. This “happiness” has to become your essence before you can take anything on.

I hope this article has giving you some peace if you are struggling. I always end with Love for all of you. I truly hope that my thoughts bring some relief or hope.

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depression treatment

Depression Treatment (Alternatives)

Depression Treatment

There are so many options these days for treating depression. One of which I am strongly against. Pharmaceutical Drugs are the worst way for depression treatment. I am sure there is a level of dosage a person under depression treatment needs to take during therapy to function during therapy or counseling. I just think that when a patient is under this prescription they need to be monitored and a follow up should be scheduled accordingly to make sure there is not a mis-use of the drug or drugs.

I have written an article about depression treatment before.

Depression Treatment

Depression Facts

How to Deal with Depression

Self Medicate Depression

I just wanted to write this follow up article to express my view on more positive options for depression treatment. I am really passionate about helping people combat depression and anxiety. It is my belief that as a community we can help bring people out of this affliction if we are aware of the triggers which are mostly caused by our own doing as a society. To get to the root cause we need to bring awareness to depression symptoms and causes. We as a community need to change the way we address the methods to depression treatment. What is acceptable and what is not. We have a lazy attitude thinking that the pill is the answer to everything. There are so many other ways to address this affliction. Here are some natural approaches. Here are some tips that can help someone feeling better right now…..

Alternative to depression treatment.

  • Get in a Routine
  • Set Goals
  • Exercise
  • Eat Healthy
  • Get Enough Sleep
  • Take on Responsibilities
  • Challenge Negative Thoughts
  • Take Natural Supplements (check with your Doctor!) Fish Oil, Folic Acid, Blue Berries……
  • Do Something New
  • Try to Have Fun
  • Meditation
  • Music Therapy
  • Avoid Coffee Drink Green Tea Instead
  • Expose Yourself to Sunlight
  • Laugh!

There has to be a better way to beat this depression thing and drugs cannot be the only depression treatment that is out there. Do some research! Talk to someone about it! Cry, laugh! Go online and read positive quotes. See a happy comedy. Stay away from toxic relationships and environments. My hope is that you have found something in this article that could help. I am clearly not a doctor or a psychologist. I am someone who loves people and wants you or your loved one to get better.

Start with going through my blog-posts and seeing if it cheers you up. Smile, be happy and be well! I Love you whoever you are…. But you are important to me that is why I am writing this article