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As if depression weren’t bad enough, statistics show that diagnoses are growing at an alarming rate. In addition, states with higher rates of depression also show high rates of other negative health outcomes, such as obesity, heart disease, and stroke. Individuals suffering from depression are more likely to be unemployed or recently divorced than their non-depressed counterparts, and women experience greater risk of depression than men. Despite all of these statistics on depression, this infographic shows that many people suffer symptoms of depression without seeking care, and that undiagnosed depression costs the U.S. millions of dollars each year. Now a global health issue, depression awareness, diagnosis, and treatment are matters of crucial significance in building a healthier, happier world.

This is alarming because these numbers are fro a 2012 Study. What are they now???

Why can’t I be a life coach or mentor? Why is it that I need a certification or a professional license to help people be happy and learn to live happy? IS it the potential life coach salary and the industry alone that makes it impossible to be a life coach just because you love to help people? The life coach certification costs the same as if you were getting a college education. What is a life coach? It is a person that observes your daily activities to determine if you are making healthy decisions towards attaining happiness? I am not sure anymore. The actual meaning behind life coaching has turned very commercial. The real life coaches are amazing individuals that care for the quality of life of an individual and their happiness. The industry is saturated with very professional looking and acting people creating a brand for themselves to make a shitload of money. AS for their compassion for people that is in question.

How can a 24 year old straight out of college give me the knowledge and guidance of my life? Why would I let my life be mentored by someone that does not know a thing about suffering and can appreciate happiness at its essence? How will that young person so naïve and wide-eyed give me the guidance I need to attain my focus. I am sure they have been taught amazing techniques. I am sure their $80k education is formidable.

The life coach jobs are hard to come by if you do not have a certification. I am a happiness mentor. I did not set out to become one. It was given to me by many people that have come to me through the years for help. Even when I am at my lowest they come to me. I love people and I do not want people to feel the loneliness and anxiety I have felt because I thought no one wanted to listen to me as a friend and help me just because without any agenda. I truly only have a handful of people I can call a true friend because they will put their asses on the line for me and be there at any time.

My true friends I do not speak with everyday…once a month if I am lucky…and yet when we get together we are like yesterday.  A good life coach should be like that…someone that feels like they know you inside out and can feel your honesty and love you and mentor you even though you are dishonest. But I guess in the life coach world that is unacceptable. That is not ethical to be so close to a client because it might cross that conflict of interest line. But compassion is not a part of the schooling either. Keep your distance, make a judgement and guide the client. Look…I really don’t know what goes on these people’s heads. All I know the life coaches that I know personally are amazing people to me and I love the few of them that I have the privilege to know and they give me some amazing perspectives on life and how to help people. They chose a very admirable profession. They give me their opinion of how to operate. I respect that. I don’t agree with them but I respect them and they are honest. They are full of shit but at least they are brave enough to tell me like it is.

I have had many relationships with people from all vocational works. I have had family members from all vocations. They all have something in common and began their journey for the same reason. To help People. That is in our nature. So if you want to become a wellness coach, or a life coach, or become a priest, minister or anything to help people…..do it because you are passionate about helping people not passionate about going into a lucrative industry and you will be paid nicely if you have a good game…. Don’t commercialize and whore out on the unhappiness and desperation of people we have enough of those in religion.

I Love You. Remember….Jesus loved everyone unconditionally…. He was an amazing life coach and he did it for free…. (technically)

If someone proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is no God or that our life was not created intentionally…what would you do for those of you that believe? Would you live your life any different? Would you love less or love more?  Knowing that when you die there is nothingness. There is the absence of you. You will have been but a vapor once here and dissipated into nothing. Is that factual that we are nothing? Can someone explain this death theory and what happens to our energy that holds together the atoms we are composed of?

What would you do?

That question has been asked for many upon many years. Science has tried to change prove, disprove and approve the disapprove to prove…. It is a big circle. What is the real answer to the riddle of life? Is there proof that we exist beyond our lifeless bodies? Is there a theory that someone can actually prove scientifically that we are real and not just a story once we take our last breath?….

Let’s break it down. Why do religious groups have war? Do atheists and non-believers kill others in the name of nothingness? Do non-believers have the courage to end their lives to make a statement to the world knowing that their existence is over when they blow themselves up? What drives a man of peace and love to be a martyr for their religion? If they are a person of peace what does killing have to do with peace? Don’t give me that bullshit answer for the greater good! If religion is there to help and minister to people Gods love and protect why are children being molested?

If a man standing in front of a crowd really cares about his people why does he put them down for being poor because they cannot contribute their last dollar? Am I missing something here? If I do not show up I get criticized, if I show up wearing the wrong outfit I get scolded and chased out. If I show up I don’t feel loved. Why then would I join a family of hypocrites? Pornography gives me love. Alcohol and Drugs calm me down. Gangs give me encouragement and protection.

The only judge in my life is myself in a dark room by myself when I try and meditate on who and what I am. The dark voice inside my head. What is that voice? Do we have an inner voice that knows right from wrong? DO we hold a special gift we do not know about? Why do we have intuition? Where did that come from? Explain that one to me religion and science…. Why is it when experience the in-explainable and when we go to the “correct” people to explain they tell you to have faith and to not question the things of God. Is that who God is? What if there was no God and we have all these wonderful gifts, and abilities, and all these amazing things we are capable of experiencing… We know we are powerful beings….. I know….it is the aliens… They inbred with us therefore we hold special gifts. Is that God? The aliens?

If there is nothingness after this something we are experiencing then why do I see visions of tomorrow? Why do people clearly see “things” that are moving and yet have nothing about them you can touch? What is that and where does it come from? The devil? I thought the devil wasn’t real?

Is there God? Where is he? Why are we afraid of him? If there is a God and he is about love why is there a hell? Why is he mad? Why is he jealous if I am told to love like God who loves unconditionally? Why is there war in the name of_____.

Why do you pray? And what do you pray for If You are supposed to be created in Gods image…. Arent you powerful? Knowing you are created in the image of an all powerful universal creator should increase your faith by un-measurable amounts….and yet you sit there unhappy, discouraged and full of fear. What good is religion if it doesn’t bring you happiness.

If I believed in God. I would be happy all the time. Fear would be my bitch because I know who is my essence.

That is the SIMPLICITY of Happiness,

Is it easy? No.

We Need Happiness instead of Self Medicate Depression.
I help people realize they are wasting time lamenting over nonsense on a daily basis, what I mean by that is they worry about the bullshit. Why? People believe the reason for our unhappiness is to blame everyone else for our fears. We have pain and suffering, we allow ourselves to go through it and we do not perceive it in a healthy way. We waste our time on the petty stuff. Most people are healthy mentally and yet they conjure up every reason to be sad and justify their self-medication. I self-medicate depression on many different levels. It was self-destructive more than it was beneficial.

Why are we so self-destructive? Is it a conditioning we go through from a very young age? I think our fears turn into anxiety and depression at some point. We then get caught up in this affliction. So many suffer from it, and we need to help one another address it at the core and cause. The cause of depression means different things to everyone. Treating depression should not always be with drugs but with love, compassion and understanding. Loneliness goes along with depression and anxiety. The standard medical treatment is the same. Depression Medication Names like -Ativan, Zoloft, Paxil etc… We can go so many different ways with this subject matter and depression medication. Prescription drugs could be used as a palliative treatment in this condition…..but the core of the problem remains. The individual searches for something harder if there is no follow up to drown out the voices they hear every day.

The question is, how do we administer the love and compassion to someone who is anti-social? That is harder than it sounds. It takes patience and hard work because the person you might be trying to reach has been sad, depressed and alone for a very long time. A person helping this type of individual has to be dedicated and passionate about what they are doing in order not to give up. Once you start helping a person like this it is a commitment and there is no turning back. The whole purpose of helping this person is to regain their confidence in humanity on an organic level. For them to be confident that they are receiving help they have to trust. The credibility will be lost if you walk away after being challenged. Love is at the forefront of this process.

A professional has to be ethical and keep his distance in order to treat. An intimate, family member and or friend will have too much to lose if they falter. So who then??…. Someone with a Love and Passion for this affliction. Someone that has experienced that pain. Someone that is Happy. Someone that is full of joy. Again….let me repeat… Someone that is happy.

It takes a special person to do this kind of work. This person has to be clear of all negativity when they are helping someone in this state of mind. This person has to be so happy to help even the most severe cases because of their devotion to help cure depression. They will take on any insult and not take it personal…and yet they should take it very personal. This type of person cannot follow old antiquated processes and depression treatments. They have to be direct and compassionate.

I want to re-iterate my opinion and make it clear….There are serious cases where medication is needed, but that is only one method for the person being helped to focus. Drugs and depression medication could be very counterproductive.

I am not a doctor, these are my opinions and should not be taken as a prescription for treatment. I am a person that loves people and has a passion for helping. All I can do is share my love through what I think is right for me. Helping.  I love you. Be well always!