Encouragement

Sometimes we find ourselves borderline with death and life. Our minds are always exploring the avenue of depression and misery. We have voices from the past trying to convince us that lies are the truth. That the truth is relevant as a choice. We argue with those thoughts and days weeks months go by and we just get by. We waste time worrying about all the aspects of our sadness that we lose precious time enjoying our loved ones around us.

For those that are alone you waste time feeling sorry and do not ever move on to create a new life for yourself. Free of attachments. Travel and move anywhere to meet new people. There are so many situations we can talk about where there could be a good excuse to be miserable. If we are alive then there is hope to create something special.

I recently put myself in a situation where it is out of my comfort zone. It is scary for anyone that does not have the courage to face something new and is not able to create with confidence. It takes courage for someone to change in stride. I am not saying that we should stop what we are doing and do what we love and are passionate about. That would be absurd. We should never want to re-think our lives to be happier if we are already comfortable. Never!!! We need security. We need low risk situations where we can just settle and be safe. Happiness is relevant isn’t it? It isn’t really happiness it is craziness to want to laugh all the time going to and from work. Laugh when you collect that check from something that you enjoy doing while everyone is working overtime and barely making ends meet.

Do not do that. Do not enjoy life. I beg you. Settle for the people over you that do not appreciate how amazing you are. Do not get out of your comfort zone and make yourself uncomfortable sacrificing that comfort for the payoff of making a living at something you love to do. Do not put the hard work in for a passion where you work for 10-12 hours a day in something that is amazing and fulfilling to you. NO! That would be a bad idea. That is so CRAZY that you cannot even think of it you selfish person you.

You are a hypocrite! Can’t we all just get a long at work and be happy? I made some mistakes in my career and my life where I let my emotions get the best of me, I let my weaknesses get the best of me, I let my temper get the best of me, I let my principles get me in trouble and I did not stick with my principles at times. I got away from going to a place where other people rejoice in life and pray together earnestly and honestly in a non-judgmental way. Don’t look at me with those eyes like you are innocent you hypocrite! I love you! I will always love you even though you think of nothing but hate towards me. I will always stretch out my hands in hopes that you will accept my gift of love and kindness, friendship and goodwill. Instead look at me with those righteous eyes. How Dare You?! I answer in love. I love you. Period.

This is a rant. This is how the mind works when you are in the process of meditating. This is how we can go back and forth from emotion to thought and never get anywhere. We have to not listen to the lies. We have to block out the voices. The voices can be so damaging. The voices of the past and our fears all balled up into one. Relax. Love and be happy.

I Am Better than You! Stay Away!!!
I am always being followed from place to place by this thing that lingers. It curses me at every turn and make fun of me every chance it gets. I am always arguing with it. I wish it would go away. I turn the corner and it is looking at me laughing at me because I can never run or move far enough to get away from it. The other day I was happy minding my own business and out of the blue it pops up and says hello. I was so upset because it came at the most inopportune moment. At that moment my life changed and I am now headed in a different direction. I am still happy but in a different direction!
I have a great plan and have all the answers and there it is glaring at me with its devious eyes. It is a disgusting looking thing. I don’t know how to explain it. It has no scent, it doesn’t look ugly nor does it look appealing. It is there. It knows how to use that transparency to hide. I cannot describe the impact it has on me when it decides to penetrate my being and change everything for that moment. I try to talk myself out of acknowledging its presence…but it is always there. It does not even touch me. I can be doing great and have success and it decides to walk in my space and I immediately doubt myself and I begin to fail. I begin to go against everything I am confident about. In truth it is very subtle. It makes small comments. It doesn’t even yell at me. It speaks under its breath. It is very quiet. But what it says is very impactful… I cannot stress how profound the language it uses. It is very convincing. All it does is plants a little seed in my head and that is enough for me to magnify the comment or thought a billion times. And then I duplicate it a trillion times in my mind. Literally a trillion times in my mind.
This stupid thing is very intelligent. It uses a little trick in our minds. It embeds itself inside our thoughts and at the most opportune moment it plants a little thought and we began to believe this thought and our “imagination” creates multiple scenarios for this little idea to become true. Then our physical bodies react to this belief that was created as an idea. And now our imagination is bringing forth an idea that becomes a truth. Redundant? Yes. This thing works on redundancies. Because we believe it as such and it will become. We believe it so passionately that it is so and our mind is focused on the idea.
We lose. Fear Wins. Fear is the beginning of the end. Fear has no friends. Fear is not negotiable. Fear creates stress. Fear creates negative momentum. When we doubt ourselves and build on that doubt the game is over, FEAR has kryptonite. LOVE and Happiness is Kryptonite to Fear. Love others unconditionally and be Happy. Happiness comes from Love. The two are hand in hand. Love yourself first. First and foremost look in the mirror and see you for who you are and accept that being and Love who you are immediately. Build amazing dreams based on who you are and your purpose. When Fear creeps its little head LOVE yourself and do not believe the lies. Use statements that start with I Am! I Am powerful. I am Beautiful. I Am Worth. I am amazing. I am a wonderful father. I am a wonderful wife. I am a wonderful employee. I am a talented musician. I am an inspiration to others. I am what I am and I love myself for who I am. Use the “I AM” and “I LOVE” to fight off fear. Fear uses I am NOT as a weapon. If you believe you are not you will lose.

I Am an Amazing Contributor to Humanity because I am Happy and I want others to be Happy.

I Love You!

Becareful what you attach to you “I Am”. It has the power to limit you or free you!

When you have time watch this YouTube Video series. “The Power of I Am” Video Series.

My hope and prayer for everyone reading this post is that you are living a life of true happiness. What do I mean by true happiness? Being calm during a storm. Expecting the best outcome from your faith in knowing that all is for the good. Romans 8:28 “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” That verse is so true. If we truly have happiness that verse can ring true in any culture and religion. It is simple yet so powerful. The outcome is always for the good if we have faith in that statement. In a general sense. Meaning a non-religious or other than the scripture I believe in, we can all agree that when there are hard times there is always a lesson to be learned and we get stronger because of the challenge we experienced. There is always a better outcome than what we endured. For one the pain has stopped or we have learned to overcome and or live with the reality of life. We appreciate that the life we have now has flavor. We can overcome anything after we have experienced adversity. Most will be stronger. Some will continue to struggle because the lesson was ignored.
It is my belief…and you don’t have to continue to read this…but it is my belief that we all travel this journey and are on three planes of thought or existence. I am not talking about multi dimension…although some say the mind alters our existence through thought and we create alternate dimensions of our destiny. We all travel on 3 choices of thought.
The first plane of thought is that of expecting the worst in life, living in constant worry, pain and negativity. We complain, accuse and disregard others happiness because we want to invite them to our misery. In this plane the days go by so fast. We have lapses in our memory. We feel like everyone should carry us and look for all the shoulders to cry on and ears to bend so that we can justify through their encouragement of displeasure they can add to what we are already experiencing. In essence you are not living and a member of a sad community. It becomes very accommodating and comfortable like an addiction. You need more and want to gravitate towards all these people that love and thrive off of the negative talk and gossip. It so dark in this thought that the brightest light cannot guide you out of it. Most do not even know how to love. I could go on about this plane of thought but as I am talking I am tempted to start complaining and throwing non-edifying opinions of others. I sometimes find myself engaging in these conversations and hurt the progress I have achieved in my life from even 15 minutes of this kind of thought or conversation. We enjoy the flavor of disease and disgust. We look for the irrational thinking of violence and hate. We fall in love with the sadness that makes us so emotional and justifies our destructive behavior and we ask for tolerance for the vices we partake in because we have the excuse now.
I described the extreme. There is the subtle quiet version of this plane. It is far more destructive. It’s called depression. Passive aggressive thought and behavior. Some believe they will just keep it to themselves and suffer quietly. Innocently not asking for help because they do not want to or do not think anyone will want to help. So they suffer in loneliness. Self-pity and denial. They aggregate the problem by choosing to be alone during this drought of happiness. They will avoid and stay away from everyone and keep to themselves. One day they explode. Damaging and continuing an ever revolving cycle they teach their children and loved ones that look up to them. This thought is more addicting and damaging. This causes people to hurt themselves with internal destructive behaviors. Self-inflicting emotional punishments. I would rather get punched in the face 100 times than have my loved ones turn their backs on me from my behavior.
The higher level plane is a sometimes deceiving plane that many people travel in. It takes a lot of energy to travel in this plane. People often travel in this plane to impress, a hidden agenda, self-serving, denial, escape, disguise, running away, pretending, self-medicate. Positivism through synthetic stimuli. This plane is a very dangerous plane to travel on. We aim to travel on this plane to be as far away from the first one as possible. We want to create the high so that we have the re-assurance that the low is too far away to ever pull us down. We believe every lie we tell ourselves like….”no that never happened, no not me!” We ignore that past and the pain, we keep it behind us and act as if it doesn’t exist. We keep it in the room in the recesses of our memories. We try and keep the door closed for as long as we can and not deal with what it truly is. We fear it coming out and showing its ugly teeth. We don’t like the smell of it. We try and bath it and clean it up so no one will smell it and know we have it in us. People travel very high to avoid seeing this plain. They do not look down to acknowledge the thing that keeps them from sleeping when they are alone. They try and hide the thing that when all the noise is off all they can hear is this thing. The money, the accolades, the prestige, the Ivy League education, family riches, or accumulative riches, all the material stimuli cannot quench the loneliness of pain you feel. The smallest thing can trigger you and YOU WILL fall hard down to the first level of crap you were trying so hard to avoid. You worked so hard not to face the problems. You developed a technique of hiding behind life and think that your fear and unhappiness can be replaced by other distractions and vices. It will be always there. Unhappiness. True Unhappiness will be there. Because you will not embrace your failures and challenges. You will not look in the mirror and love the imperfect you. You will not look at the mirror and see how amazing you are by yourself. You will hide and pretend.
The plane that is the hardest to achieve is a middle plane of thought. A plane that takes a lot of work. It is a conditioning of thought. It takes hard work. In this plane you can be mindful of all your imperfections and love them. You use them to overcome challenges. You embrace them to remember and appreciate who you are. You look in the mirror and see the beautiful creation that was given a great opportunity and purpose. You spend your life aware. You love unconditionally. You forgive yourself. You love yourself. You live life as an ambassador of love and kindness. You breathe happiness and joy. You see everything for the good. You teach others and smile. You expect nothing in return from giving love. You are addicted to loving others. You see God in everyone because he is who created us. The miracle of your body and mind are enough for the proof of existence of an infinite universe because you know that the atoms that compose our biological structure are eternally micro as well as eternally macro. You embrace the philosophies of science because they prove you are a part and connected to the WHY….
Traveling in this plane is powerful. You know that pretending to always be happy when you are in pain is setting you up for a harder fall. You know that living in misery is one step away from a short lived life and exposing everyone that looks at you and loves you to undeserved suffering. You cause suffering when you are selfish. I have many people that tell me “if everything will turn out for the good then why you want everyone to be so concerned with living happy, when we leave this body we leave the weight of all that is entailed in this body behind.” My response is… you do not know what eyes are on you and who is following your lead, it is selfish of you to let someone suffer because of your leading them down that road. Be mindful of who you are and what you display. The eyes of babes might be using you as an example.
Traveling in a middle plane is amazing because you are always learning and loving at the same time. You are present. You live in wisdom. You live faithful in l. You love unconditional. There is a view of all planes of thought because your mind can learn from your conditioning of it. You always are reading positive literature. Your edification of your mind body and soul is of the utmost importance. You always want to surround yourself with positive people. You embrace the negative people and love them and not run away. You are more inclined to love them than complain about them. Your love for them grows stronger as you get stronger.
Life is beautiful. You are saddened by the violence and hatred but try and bestow a love upon the victims. It is something we cannot control. People put themselves on a path to destruction and there is collateral damage along the way and it is unfortunate. If that tragedy is ultimately coming my way and I cannot avoid it I might as well just enjoy those last moments loving my precious life and those around me and solidify my legacy of love. What else can I do, that is what I have control over is my perception of life. I live on that plane of existence. I live my days looking for opportunities to love everyone. I want to put smiles on people’s faces anywhere and everywhere. If I am not accepted I cannot control that but I can control the tolerance I have for the bullshit I have to endure. My tolerance is high because I LOVE THE BULLSHITTER AS WELL BUT NOT THE BULLSHIT. Ok so I get carried away
Give Love. You are made of it. Learn to receive Love, you deserve it and it is your right.
As always… I truly Love YOU

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