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What is Unconditional Love?

Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations or love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism, or complete love.

I am writing to describe how we perceive unconditional love. When I ask people what they think unconditional love is they respond so negatively. People seem to think loving without boundaries is a bad thing. I think we let our ego take over and that is what causes pain. We are so quick to judge one another and the wall begins to keep us apart.

We are a loving species. We re-create one another through love, we heal through love, we love emotionally and deeply. We hurt and feel so much pain when we lose love. Love is such a huge word to discuss.

I want to detail my specific take on unconditional love. I want to share how Accepting ourselves Unconditionally is Love at its highest level. Accepting how and who we are is strength. Loving ourselves unconditionally is fearless love. We can grow from the point we accept ourselves in this way. Most of us look in the mirror and are not happy with what we see. We are so imperfect in our own eyes and yet we do not see how perfect of a creation we are. We are capable of creating anything we want to.

The most perfect creation is our mind. We are creative beings. The mind is capable of so much power…. The power to heal, the power to create, the power to feel. We have the power to have a voice and a choice for ourselves. We also have the unique ability to forgive. We have a choice to love our-self.

If we do anything in this life we have so short of time…. to love ourselves is the primary thing we need to focus on. The world is in a bad place because people are very unhappy. They are unhappy because they cannot accept themselves. It is a vicious cycle. Quit making excuses. Love yourself. It is very simple. Your life could end tomorrow. You are wasting time. There are so many people that want to try…. you get in their way because you infect them with your negativity. If you care about your loved ones wake up and love yourself so that you can be that example.

I Love You.

How to Live in the Present

When I look in the mirror I am very critical. I want to be the best me I can be. I know I have my failures and I am very aware of the imperfections that compose my character. I know that my imperfections make me. I accept all of me all the time and I am happy to be me. If I am a person that helps others I need to love myself and appreciate where I am at in the present. I cannot be wishy washy and unsure of who I am.
I have been helping people deal with their demons and depression for many years. I am not a professional but I have always been a go to person for anyone and everyone. Since I was at a very young age I have been a magnet for this stuff. I never turn people away. Years ago when I was suffering from anxiety and depression I would help people as I would flirt with suicide, self-destructive attitudes and no one would know this. Yet I never turned anyone away. Why? Because I believed if I turned someone away, someone would turn their back on me one day. This has happened to me. Helping people and seeing them improve is an amazing experience. Changing the perception and mindset of someone with a toxic way of thinking is very rewarding. It is not about my ego I find enjoyment it is the satisfaction that someone will not feel what I was feeling anymore.
Today I am happy. My mindset is positive 85 percent of the time. I am always going to struggle with my depression and anxiety. I found out it is in my genes. It is hereditary and in the makeup of one of my parents. I cannot deny this. I have to embrace it to the point where I am aware of it so I can see it as it arrives in my consciousness. It is like a huge dark cloud on the horizon. You see it coming and you prepare. You get everything ready and prepare for the worse. When the storm comes you get what you get and try to come out of it alive and with minimal damage. You cannot avoid the storm. It is on its way. There is no running from it. So prepare for whatever is going to arrive. It is like death. It will come eventually. Prepare for it. Do not worry about it because it is inevitable. Enjoy the now. Give yourself an opportunity to thrive.
I teach Happiness. I do not solve people problems. I observe the mindset of people and help them with their awareness of the deficiencies in their happiness. I truly believe that if we are happy we can solve any problems and address situations with a clear and focused plan. If our thoughts are organized and open to flexibility we can grow. IF we are positive we can grow! Yes. We have the capacity in that state of mind to look back and learn from the minute before. We can be happy in the present and appreciate the relief we feel and the negativity is an afterthought. If we practice this on a regular basis we can condition our minds to remain in the positive mindset because it is more natural and feels good.
I make it sound very simple. It is simple to make a decision to be happy and it is very hard work to remain in that state of mind. But like anything else in life we have to work hard to reap the rewards of training. When I look in the mirror I see a man that has been through a lifetime of experiences. I see a person that knows how to love unconditionally. I can truly look at my “enemies” and love them. They are not enemies. They are my brothers and sisters that have not yet experience awareness of who they are and where they are in the present.

The point here is to love yourself. Accept your present. Do not expect anything except to love and be loved. Live today. Appreciate the present and use the experience of awareness and teach others.
As always I love you! I am here for you. I write for you.
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If someone proved beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is no God or that our life was not created intentionally…what would you do for those of you that believe? Would you live your life any different? Would you love less or love more?  Knowing that when you die there is nothingness. There is the absence of you. You will have been but a vapor once here and dissipated into nothing. Is that factual that we are nothing? Can someone explain this death theory and what happens to our energy that holds together the atoms we are composed of?

What would you do?

That question has been asked for many upon many years. Science has tried to change prove, disprove and approve the disapprove to prove…. It is a big circle. What is the real answer to the riddle of life? Is there proof that we exist beyond our lifeless bodies? Is there a theory that someone can actually prove scientifically that we are real and not just a story once we take our last breath?….

Let’s break it down. Why do religious groups have war? Do atheists and non-believers kill others in the name of nothingness? Do non-believers have the courage to end their lives to make a statement to the world knowing that their existence is over when they blow themselves up? What drives a man of peace and love to be a martyr for their religion? If they are a person of peace what does killing have to do with peace? Don’t give me that bullshit answer for the greater good! If religion is there to help and minister to people Gods love and protect why are children being molested?

If a man standing in front of a crowd really cares about his people why does he put them down for being poor because they cannot contribute their last dollar? Am I missing something here? If I do not show up I get criticized, if I show up wearing the wrong outfit I get scolded and chased out. If I show up I don’t feel loved. Why then would I join a family of hypocrites? Pornography gives me love. Alcohol and Drugs calm me down. Gangs give me encouragement and protection.

The only judge in my life is myself in a dark room by myself when I try and meditate on who and what I am. The dark voice inside my head. What is that voice? Do we have an inner voice that knows right from wrong? DO we hold a special gift we do not know about? Why do we have intuition? Where did that come from? Explain that one to me religion and science…. Why is it when experience the in-explainable and when we go to the “correct” people to explain they tell you to have faith and to not question the things of God. Is that who God is? What if there was no God and we have all these wonderful gifts, and abilities, and all these amazing things we are capable of experiencing… We know we are powerful beings….. I know….it is the aliens… They inbred with us therefore we hold special gifts. Is that God? The aliens?

If there is nothingness after this something we are experiencing then why do I see visions of tomorrow? Why do people clearly see “things” that are moving and yet have nothing about them you can touch? What is that and where does it come from? The devil? I thought the devil wasn’t real?

Is there God? Where is he? Why are we afraid of him? If there is a God and he is about love why is there a hell? Why is he mad? Why is he jealous if I am told to love like God who loves unconditionally? Why is there war in the name of_____.

Why do you pray? And what do you pray for If You are supposed to be created in Gods image…. Arent you powerful? Knowing you are created in the image of an all powerful universal creator should increase your faith by un-measurable amounts….and yet you sit there unhappy, discouraged and full of fear. What good is religion if it doesn’t bring you happiness.

If I believed in God. I would be happy all the time. Fear would be my bitch because I know who is my essence.

That is the SIMPLICITY of Happiness,

Is it easy? No.

At the core of our life is our intent on finding a purpose and where do we fit in. Where do we fit in this world and our environment? We spend a lifetime searching for this very specific answer. Sadly there are others that just exist. To a majority of people that is just fine. That mindset to me is such an empty and lonely state of being. For those of us that think we are all here for a purpose and searching and seeking out this purpose it is a monumental undertaking if you are surrounded by idiots. Idiots is a harsh word. But let me re-phrase…..Sad People.

Honestly all kidding aside this world is full of people that are just existing. For many years since I was a child I thought my life was a happy life, an upbringing with loving and nurturing people. I thought that no one was out to hurt me. As I grew older that fantasy was met with reality when the memories started to trickle in. I would come across experiences as an older child, or triggers that would help me recall very negative and challenging experiences. The reason I did not realize they were bad during the experience is because as a child we are innocent and naïve and think our current experience is a norm. We do not have anything else as a base, our experience is limited. We have only new experiences with no judgement. As we mature through different stages we began to learn right from wrong. Then our past takes on a new life. We start to come across new experiences not so comfortable and then relate those new experiences with old, and it will trigger the past experience as it is happening in real time.

Experiences from childhood and forward shape our character. Our initial environmental experience will pre-determine our future decisions. WE will carry our fears predicated upon those past experiences. We will wonder why we have phobias, and resistance when we are challenged. We will create a life for ourselves based on those fears. We will create a safe place through our lives avoiding similar feeling experiences. Any emotion or feeling that is even remotely similar and attached to a current experience is a warning sign to us to stay away.

Life is full of challenges and we have to be strong in the face of all the adversity that we face in order to grow. If we are generally happy these adverse situations will be easier to face. If we listen to our voices telling us that the past negative experiences will be repeated if we embark on new experiences that have a risk associated to it, we will always find a safe place to reside and never move forward challenging ourselves to grow by overcoming.

Fear is not a reality. There is no justification for it. (False Evidence Appearing Real)The cure is not giving a fuck about your past and living life with faith that God will provide the safe haven and promise to you that you are a powerful being full of love. Love yourself and be fearless. Try anything and everything. THAT is how you will find your PURPOSE.

Be Good. I Love You.