I Am Better Than You! Stay Away!
I Am Better than You! Stay Away!!!
I am always being followed from place to place by this thing that lingers. It curses me at every turn and make fun of me every chance it gets. I am always arguing with it. I wish it would go away. I turn the corner and it is looking at me laughing at me because I can never run or move far enough to get away from it. The other day I was happy minding my own business and out of the blue it pops up and says hello. I was so upset because it came at the most inopportune moment. At that moment my life changed and I am now headed in a different direction. I am still happy but in a different direction!
I have a great plan and have all the answers and there it is glaring at me with its devious eyes. It is a disgusting looking thing. I don’t know how to explain it. It has no scent, it doesn’t look ugly nor does it look appealing. It is there. It knows how to use that transparency to hide. I cannot describe the impact it has on me when it decides to penetrate my being and change everything for that moment. I try to talk myself out of acknowledging its presence…but it is always there. It does not even touch me. I can be doing great and have success and it decides to walk in my space and I immediately doubt myself and I begin to fail. I begin to go against everything I am confident about. In truth it is very subtle. It makes small comments. It doesn’t even yell at me. It speaks under its breath. It is very quiet. But what it says is very impactful… I cannot stress how profound the language it uses. It is very convincing. All it does is plants a little seed in my head and that is enough for me to magnify the comment or thought a billion times. And then I duplicate it a trillion times in my mind. Literally a trillion times in my mind.
This stupid thing is very intelligent. It uses a little trick in our minds. It embeds itself inside our thoughts and at the most opportune moment it plants a little thought and we began to believe this thought and our “imagination” creates multiple scenarios for this little idea to become true. Then our physical bodies react to this belief that was created as an idea. And now our imagination is bringing forth an idea that becomes a truth. Redundant? Yes. This thing works on redundancies. Because we believe it as such and it will become. We believe it so passionately that it is so and our mind is focused on the idea.
We lose. Fear Wins. Fear is the beginning of the end. Fear has no friends. Fear is not negotiable. Fear creates stress. Fear creates negative momentum. When we doubt ourselves and build on that doubt the game is over, FEAR has kryptonite. LOVE and Happiness is Kryptonite to Fear. Love others unconditionally and be Happy. Happiness comes from Love. The two are hand in hand. Love yourself first. First and foremost look in the mirror and see you for who you are and accept that being and Love who you are immediately. Build amazing dreams based on who you are and your purpose. When Fear creeps its little head LOVE yourself and do not believe the lies. Use statements that start with I Am! I Am powerful. I am Beautiful. I Am Worth. I am amazing. I am a wonderful father. I am a wonderful wife. I am a wonderful employee. I am a talented musician. I am an inspiration to others. I am what I am and I love myself for who I am. Use the “I AM” and “I LOVE” to fight off fear. Fear uses I am NOT as a weapon. If you believe you are not you will lose.
I Am an Amazing Contributor to Humanity because I am Happy and I want others to be Happy.
I Love You!
Becareful what you attach to you “I Am”. It has the power to limit you or free you!
When you have time watch this YouTube Video series. “The Power of I Am” Video Series.
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My hope and prayer for everyone reading this post is that you are living a life of true happiness. What do I mean by true happiness? Being calm during a storm. Expecting the best outcome from your faith in knowing that all is for the good. Romans 8:28 “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” That verse is so true. If we truly have happiness that verse can ring true in any culture and religion. It is simple yet so powerful. The outcome is always for the good if we have faith in that statement. In a general sense. Meaning a non-religious or other than the scripture I believe in, we can all agree that when there are hard times there is always a lesson to be learned and we get stronger because of the challenge we experienced. There is always a better outcome than what we endured. For one the pain has stopped or we have learned to overcome and or live with the reality of life. We appreciate that the life we have now has flavor. We can overcome anything after we have experienced adversity. Most will be stronger. Some will continue to struggle because the lesson was ignored.
It is my belief…and you don’t have to continue to read this…but it is my belief that we all travel this journey and are on three planes of thought or existence. I am not talking about multi dimension…although some say the mind alters our existence through thought and we create alternate dimensions of our destiny. We all travel on 3 choices of thought.
The first plane of thought is that of expecting the worst in life, living in constant worry, pain and negativity. We complain, accuse and disregard others happiness because we want to invite them to our misery. In this plane the days go by so fast. We have lapses in our memory. We feel like everyone should carry us and look for all the shoulders to cry on and ears to bend so that we can justify through their encouragement of displeasure they can add to what we are already experiencing. In essence you are not living and a member of a sad community. It becomes very accommodating and comfortable like an addiction. You need more and want to gravitate towards all these people that love and thrive off of the negative talk and gossip. It so dark in this thought that the brightest light cannot guide you out of it. Most do not even know how to love. I could go on about this plane of thought but as I am talking I am tempted to start complaining and throwing non-edifying opinions of others. I sometimes find myself engaging in these conversations and hurt the progress I have achieved in my life from even 15 minutes of this kind of thought or conversation. We enjoy the flavor of disease and disgust. We look for the irrational thinking of violence and hate. We fall in love with the sadness that makes us so emotional and justifies our destructive behavior and we ask for tolerance for the vices we partake in because we have the excuse now.
I described the extreme. There is the subtle quiet version of this plane. It is far more destructive. It’s called depression. Passive aggressive thought and behavior. Some believe they will just keep it to themselves and suffer quietly. Innocently not asking for help because they do not want to or do not think anyone will want to help. So they suffer in loneliness. Self-pity and denial. They aggregate the problem by choosing to be alone during this drought of happiness. They will avoid and stay away from everyone and keep to themselves. One day they explode. Damaging and continuing an ever revolving cycle they teach their children and loved ones that look up to them. This thought is more addicting and damaging. This causes people to hurt themselves with internal destructive behaviors. Self-inflicting emotional punishments. I would rather get punched in the face 100 times than have my loved ones turn their backs on me from my behavior.
The higher level plane is a sometimes deceiving plane that many people travel in. It takes a lot of energy to travel in this plane. People often travel in this plane to impress, a hidden agenda, self-serving, denial, escape, disguise, running away, pretending, self-medicate. Positivism through synthetic stimuli. This plane is a very dangerous plane to travel on. We aim to travel on this plane to be as far away from the first one as possible. We want to create the high so that we have the re-assurance that the low is too far away to ever pull us down. We believe every lie we tell ourselves like….”no that never happened, no not me!” We ignore that past and the pain, we keep it behind us and act as if it doesn’t exist. We keep it in the room in the recesses of our memories. We try and keep the door closed for as long as we can and not deal with what it truly is. We fear it coming out and showing its ugly teeth. We don’t like the smell of it. We try and bath it and clean it up so no one will smell it and know we have it in us. People travel very high to avoid seeing this plain. They do not look down to acknowledge the thing that keeps them from sleeping when they are alone. They try and hide the thing that when all the noise is off all they can hear is this thing. The money, the accolades, the prestige, the Ivy League education, family riches, or accumulative riches, all the material stimuli cannot quench the loneliness of pain you feel. The smallest thing can trigger you and YOU WILL fall hard down to the first level of crap you were trying so hard to avoid. You worked so hard not to face the problems. You developed a technique of hiding behind life and think that your fear and unhappiness can be replaced by other distractions and vices. It will be always there. Unhappiness. True Unhappiness will be there. Because you will not embrace your failures and challenges. You will not look in the mirror and love the imperfect you. You will not look at the mirror and see how amazing you are by yourself. You will hide and pretend.
The plane that is the hardest to achieve is a middle plane of thought. A plane that takes a lot of work. It is a conditioning of thought. It takes hard work. In this plane you can be mindful of all your imperfections and love them. You use them to overcome challenges. You embrace them to remember and appreciate who you are. You look in the mirror and see the beautiful creation that was given a great opportunity and purpose. You spend your life aware. You love unconditionally. You forgive yourself. You love yourself. You live life as an ambassador of love and kindness. You breathe happiness and joy. You see everything for the good. You teach others and smile. You expect nothing in return from giving love. You are addicted to loving others. You see God in everyone because he is who created us. The miracle of your body and mind are enough for the proof of existence of an infinite universe because you know that the atoms that compose our biological structure are eternally micro as well as eternally macro. You embrace the philosophies of science because they prove you are a part and connected to the WHY….
Traveling in this plane is powerful. You know that pretending to always be happy when you are in pain is setting you up for a harder fall. You know that living in misery is one step away from a short lived life and exposing everyone that looks at you and loves you to undeserved suffering. You cause suffering when you are selfish. I have many people that tell me “if everything will turn out for the good then why you want everyone to be so concerned with living happy, when we leave this body we leave the weight of all that is entailed in this body behind.” My response is… you do not know what eyes are on you and who is following your lead, it is selfish of you to let someone suffer because of your leading them down that road. Be mindful of who you are and what you display. The eyes of babes might be using you as an example.
Traveling in a middle plane is amazing because you are always learning and loving at the same time. You are present. You live in wisdom. You live faithful in l. You love unconditional. There is a view of all planes of thought because your mind can learn from your conditioning of it. You always are reading positive literature. Your edification of your mind body and soul is of the utmost importance. You always want to surround yourself with positive people. You embrace the negative people and love them and not run away. You are more inclined to love them than complain about them. Your love for them grows stronger as you get stronger.
Life is beautiful. You are saddened by the violence and hatred but try and bestow a love upon the victims. It is something we cannot control. People put themselves on a path to destruction and there is collateral damage along the way and it is unfortunate. If that tragedy is ultimately coming my way and I cannot avoid it I might as well just enjoy those last moments loving my precious life and those around me and solidify my legacy of love. What else can I do, that is what I have control over is my perception of life. I live on that plane of existence. I live my days looking for opportunities to love everyone. I want to put smiles on people’s faces anywhere and everywhere. If I am not accepted I cannot control that but I can control the tolerance I have for the bullshit I have to endure. My tolerance is high because I LOVE THE BULLSHITTER AS WELL BUT NOT THE BULLSHIT. Ok so I get carried away
Give Love. You are made of it. Learn to receive Love, you deserve it and it is your right.
As always… I truly Love YOU
I Want To Be Unhappy!!!!
Is there any way we can be happy without effort. One day wake up and it is a feeling that we cannot run away from? Is there anyway where our learned trait and habits are that of a positive nature? Could we have success in transforming our mindset to that of loving all the time and not having a reason for it, with no effort and just because? What I know now in my present perceived reality is that there is little effort spent in being miserable. It is much easier to blame everyone else and including work, government, school, the milkman, the in-laws, and the person that cut you off this morning….. It is so easy and comforting to know we do not have to take accountability for our unhappiness. In the first place most of the time we have created our own damage to our psyche. We have conditioned ourselves to believe the perceptions we have allowed ourselves to listen to. There is a group of people that have visited Los Angeles this month from the Special Olympics. They did not choose their current state of being. Their being is perceived by the rest of the world as challenging and out of the normal in society, yet they are an amazing group of people performing amazing feats that a “normal” person cannot even begin to accomplish. They are truly special. They have attacked that exterior perception of themselves and internalized their view of themselves as amazing and powerful! If you watch any news reports about their games and see their faces, they are always happy. Are they challenged? Yes of course they are, but not in the way you think. They are challenged because of the general view of their state of being. They do know the difference between unhappiness and happiness. They do have a choice and know that either is available.
Effortless happiness is only achieved through quiet time or what is called meditation, or at least some inter thinking of ones being. Getting in touch with your essence so important if you are to find that internal happiness that is called love. We all have it inside us. It is our soul, essence, being, spirit, Conscious…..Yes conscious….. If we start to understand what we are about and how we are made we can stop suffering. WE will always experience. The perceptions of the experience will change. We can sort out the emotions and feelings and categorize them accordingly. We can wash our different negative states of mind with love and transform them into amazing experiences that strengthen us and shape who we can potentially be. It is hard work but worth the effort. It is harder to work towards that connection to our essence than to accept the vulgarity of pain and discomfort as “normal”.
I always tell people that they have a choice. To be happy or not. I always get the reply that I make it sound so easy. Where in that statement did I say it was easy? I said one or the other is our choice. The easy choice and most comfortable is unhappiness. There is no effort involved. No work. Just sit back accept and feel what the majority of the world is believing. Hard work is being uncomfortable, feeling the pain, conditioning you to something that is not”normal”. Inside us we have the drive that is our love for ourselves; a sense of the effort is good and just. We have a fire inside us that connects to the feeling of happiness and joy, when we experience it we do not feel our physical pains, we heal quicker, think logically, love everyone and it is reciprocated. We share our true inner selves with the world around us and it feels awesome!
Happy or Unhappy? Give it a try. I bet I am right. If I am not then don’t read this blog. I will still love you anyway.