how to be happy

Why Am I Unhappy?

I am unhappy for the excuses I make to justify feeling unhappy. I wake up every morning thinking of all the things that went wrong yesterday and what is bound to happen today. I think of all the people who are in my way and irritate the crap out of me. I think of the person next to me that does not love me anymore. I am unhappy because I feel sorry for myself and the situation I wake up to every day. There are so many more countless justifications that I remind myself to keep me to be unhappy everyday all day long. At some point it will drive me crazy ….

That is what is called a nervous breakdown.

How did we get this way? Conditioning from a very young age? Life experience, trauma and or tragedy. There are so many situations that we allow to be responsible for our present day life. We become lazy and blame the easiest available thing or person and loved one. Instead of taking stock and owning the decision we made to be unhappy. You can list a page full of excuses to be unhappy and I can sing the praises of the reasons to be happy.

This is a journey we are on. We are travelers experiencing different chapters in the story of this wonderful trip we are on. We are writing a story for ourselves, Believe it or not we are in full control of the content. We can either write the story fully in control or we can allow others to have control of our story letting them place us as actors in theirs.
It is really simple to write your own happiness story. That is the only story we should focus on. The SIMPLICITY of Happiness story.

We are the authors of our story. We write it and no one else should be responsible for the content except ourselves. We struggle because of fear. We are afraid to be brave and adventurous. Find the hard roads to take. The hard roads are our passions and loves. The things that give us purpose. The situations that bring us joy and happiness. We are afraid to try those things that are perceived as too far-reaching.

I have wanted to be a public speaker since I was very young. At one point I wanted to be a priest or a pastor because I thought that was an honorable way of helping people and I can still be standing in front of the masses to encourage and empower. I did that and it was not fulfilling. I did not feel myself. I was more stressed out. I am now a mentor of happiness. I am a Happiness Coach. I am whatever you want to call someone who wants to teach people the SIMPLICITY of Happiness to anyone and everyone.

I have my dream. I have the reality that I want to transfer from a dream reality to a physical reality. I want to stand in front of hundreds of people at once speaking to their hearts. I thought that this feat was only through a physical sense. How naive I am. I can reach millions by speaking on the internet through different social media platforms. I still offer myself face to face. I want to be available to everyone. I thought my dream was unattainable. I was not happy because I thought I was not good enough. I convinced myself it was impossible. So I started to believe this for years. One day I realized I can convince myself to believe the opposite.

I was a very late bloomer when it came to my artistic ability. I was called an artist for the first time in my life when I was 43 years old. It was amazing. I believed I was an artist. I acted as an artist. Then I was in a gallery and I was thought of as an artist from that day forward. I created my own reality.

You can create your own happiness the same way. Believe, and then just be. Eventually your physical world will catch up to your dreams. Happiness will consume you because you will believe that is what you feel every day. Try it. If you want to know my step by step easy to follow program subscribe to my blog and I will send you the program for free. I just want to help you be happy. Let go of the fear and stop letting your life deteriorate. No one person or thing is worth your life if they don’t value you the way you value them.

Quit Your Bitching and Moaning!I often use this and it recently got me in trouble but I will not stop saying it to people. If it offends someone then I guess I am on the right track. I am not saying this statement with the intent to offend anyone… I actually say it with all the compassion my heart can put out there. I love people so much that I want to have an awakening of consciousness to believe in the positivity to overcome challenging moments rather than complain thinking that will be a way of dealing with it. Complaining only adds to the pain and prepares you for more negativity. It is like you addicted to the wrong things that happen in your life. Instead of looking at events that are painful in your life as a negative we need to look at these moments as opportunities to strengthen our resolve and resiliency.
Love is a great answer and it gives us clarity to find a solution in any moment of challenge in our lives. If we start from a place of love then we can repel attacks that are unwarranted. We think we are being attacked intentionally and most times we are just in the line of fire for someone else’s experience. We need to realize that. I agree there is a percentage of moments where people are attacking us personally…. Even then we can respond with love internally first and then outwardly. Internally knowing we are good and no one else’s opinion or attack can be taken personal. Outwardly not being violent and or falling into the mindset they are in.
We have to be a beacon of light showing the world and more specifically our loved ones and those close to us in our daily grind that we are positive beings being courageous fighting for a happiness mindset. Having a happiness mindset takes hard work and consistency. We have to continually know that our perception starts with an acknowledgment and an acceptance of who we are in a current state. We need to live in the (cliché) moment! Yes living in the moment and being mindful that this moment will create tomorrow. If we are in a negative state of mind in the present moment chances are we are creating a negative tomorrow by reaping what we sowed today.
Getting back to the title and my justification for continuing to say what I said….
Quit your bitching and moaning! Because you will plant of seed of negativity in your life and acknowledge that you are what is coming out of your mouth…hence….everything you are complaining about!

Do everything in your power mentally and emotionally to maintain your happiness it’s worth it. People these days would rather work hard at being miserable and make another miserable. What is there to gain by being unhappy in your life. What progress Will you make by letting your Life slip away into a sad state of mind. We all need to wake up and realize that our state of mind . will reflect in our health and our exterior circumstances like relationships. The state of mind that I’m speaking about is a happy state of mind. It is a very simple way of thinking but to embark on the journey to maintain it takes work and self discipline. Most people don’t have the courage to take that challenge of being happy every day. The first step is to admit that you’re not happy. The second step is to except that you want to be happy. The next step is to learn how to be happy and the rest will take care of itself. 

If you want to learn more contact me on this website or follow me on Facebook and Instagram and there is enough information there for you to open your mind. 

I am happy but …… I don’t know what to do.Does this resonate with you? Are you happy and do not know what to do next? Everyday you wake up knowing what your passion is and yet still live in a fear of trying that which would give you fulfillment? We all have something we would love to do everyday for the rest of our lives. We live in a self insecure state of mind because it seems outside of our belief that we can do that thing. 

How do we get past the fear of living our passion? We can sit and work on convincing ourselves every day and struggle with that idea. I myself struggle with possibilities we are capable of and infinite number of possibilities we just have to believe we are able. 

Sincerely all we have to do is believe and truly see ourselves in that state. It is that easy? No of course not it takes hard work in thought first. Belief and faith takes courage and effort. You have to learn to change a perception that has taken a lifetime to develop. 

How do we begin? We are already happy. That is the first step. How can you let that happiness manifest your dreams? If you are truly happy and have that confidence that no matter what happens in life you always feel that sense of security from your joy on a daily basis then you have what it takes to manifest your passion and dream. 

If you are happy you have nothing to lose. If you are truly happy with yourself and your being …. adding your passion or heading towards attaining that and taking on the journey is just another experience. Pass or fail is not a choice. You are already successful because you are happy. Whether you achieve living your passion or not you will always be Happy right? So what have you got to lose?! Figure it out and do what you love!