which way is next?
I would love to say that when I help people it sticks. I am sure there are times when I have not made an impact right away after I am done helping. I have checked back with some of the individuals and they have gone back to their old way of thinking. I do not know where I am going with this post but I just had to start sharing what is in my heart right now. Sometimes we are compelled to start sharing as writers with no clear vision or intent. All I know is that People are always in my path feeling pain and it goes right through my heart. It is almost like I feel exactly what they are feeling.
This past week should have been a stressful one for me but it was a very happy time. I have been able to let go of some stumbling blocks and have a gateway of opportunity open to me. I walked away from a job that I was at for over 2-1/2 years. I enjoyed the people I worked with but had a different vision for my career. I was not enjoying coming into work no matter how much I lied to myself. I was not serving the purpose I have been so passionate about. It is important that when we are creating our lives we create situations for us that are edifying for ourselves and we are able to reach out to share and help others.
I have had a stream of ideas of what direction I will be taking on. I have a job lined up slated to start the first of October. I have a little bit of time to engage myself in alternative ways of income. It will take hard work but I am sure I will figure it out like I always do. I have been neck up in research and exploring every option I can think of. Hard work. I have the work ethic. I want to include speaking publicly, helping, mentoring and making myself available and open to helping people in whatever I decide to venture in. I am so happy at this stage in my life. I have so many positive things happening. Losing my job was one of them. I believe it will be a highlight. Finding another one or trying to figure out what is next in my life will be challenging but well worth the effort in finding the path there.
One thing this time off has left me to focus on is this website and building other ways to reach more people. I want to start create content on You Tube. I believe I can reach many other folks that would rather see eye to eye while I am speaking and seeing the passion I have for this genre. I love showing people how someone can truly care for them with no hidden agenda. I truly will succeed in reaching out to more of people like you. I am excited for this chapter in my life. If I do not continue from this moment in time forward after this article I must have died or something. Because I am so excited that I do not seeing anything else derail me other than that. I am a horrible typist, and my grammar is very bad. I don’t care. I still do not understand how I became a Pastor many years ago and was able to speak to people at a very young age. I had more balls back then then I have at present time.
I guess the point of this rant today I to let all of you reading know that I am ready to move forward and give more available content from my head. I need to give my heart and soul more places to vent and let go. I have been holding this god given wisdom inside for too long. It is time to let it go and allow someone or many benefit from it.
I love you all and I am looking forward to seeing you in YouTube Ville!!!!
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MeetUp!
I would like to tell you all a little bit about myself as it relates to what I do here in this blog and my life. I have spent the better part of my adult life lost. Lost because I had a purpose, a vision and a calling but did not have the courage to follow my dream. A dream of helping people. Part of the hesitation was fear. Fear of rejection or being criticized. Fear of not being normal. Fear of being outcast or hurt by the people closest to me. My family. I have always been called to a vocational role in life. Helping humanity or people in general. Helping humanity to me was going on a missionary or “Peace Corps” type of commitment. Which I was ready at a very young age. That is another story altogether.
When I was in my mid 20’s i became involved with an outreach church. Very involved in the community. I was encouraged to become a pastor. So I was happy to help people and if that meant becoming a pastor to achieve my dream, whether I was comfortable or not I did it. I loved it! I fell in love with the people. I was young. Having people come to me old enough to be my parents asking for help was very intimidating. I was suppose to have the answers. At 26 I would ask these people coming to me, “are you happy?”. I would always get the same answer. “It doesn’t matter whether I am happy or not, help me with my problem”.
That is where it began.
I realized that people wanted the easy way out. They wanted someone to give them the answer without putting in the work. Being happy is work. Staying happy is work. Sharing happiness is work. It is the most rewarding work you will ever embark on. It brings good health and great results. It is a free process and it is easy to apply. The concept is simple. But it is hard work. It sounds contradicting, easy and hard work.
If you are familiar with my story and what I have written about mindset you will understand this contradiction. I have read so many different authors, doctors, psychologists, therapists, motivational speakers and so on…… They all have great methods and processes. I do not have the level of education that they have. Nor do I want to have to pay back the loans. I do not have the genius and knowledge that these individuals have gained through their studies. I cannot articulate myself as eloquently as they. I only have a message that I have had in my soul, my essence, my being…. We ALL have a choice to be happy. It is inside of each and everyone of us. We are born looking for nurturing. We gravitate towards joy. We are hungry to be fed by love. We yearn for attention. As children we look for any sort of attention. If we are suffering from a mommy daddy syndrome deficiency(if that is even a plausible word) we look for a replacement in the type of people we chose as a partner. We replace our emptiness with vices and self medicate in many different ways. There are so many studies to our human nature requiring us to be loved and as to why??. I might not have the credentials to make any statements on this subject. If you do not like what I am saying get out of my blog. Stop reading now and do not upset yourself. If you continue I will do my best to love you through my words as a friend and someone that has nothing to gain from this blog. I have no hidden agenda. I am not trying to convince you to buy a product. I am not advertising any links here for you to click and I make pay per clicks. I am here for my love of people.
I am here to tell you what my soul is crying out. I am here to express my love for this world that is bleeding with misery, depression, anxiety, war, phobias, fear, anger, resentment, hurt, and so on and so forth. What is my message? Be Happy! Choose to be happy. Open your eyes. If someone or something makes you sad or upset because your perception of the situation is that it is directed towards you, and you choose to be sad because of it….Ask yourself this…”Can I control it?” “Can I control the person directing their pain towards me?”. More than likely not. So why waste time worrying about them or it or whatever…. You will waste your time. Spend your time choosing to remain in a happy state wishing that person the best and encouraging if they want to accept. If not remove yourself or avoid the emotion that allows them to affect you. Do not avoid them, Avoid the negative emotion and be a beacon for happiness.
Make sense? Choose to be happy.
Ok. I REALLY got off topic.
Back to the young Pastor that was ME> I did not see eye to eye with the pastor over me so Left. He wanted me to teach a certain way I wanted to teach people how to be happy. He said it was irrelevant. I said I wasn’t ready to be a pastor his way. So I left. I let down many people. It hurt me for a long time. I spent a greater part of my adult life feeling sorry for myself and unhappy. I do not know why to this day. Fast forward to 2007. My life started to change. Because I was fed up and asked God…. I want to be happy now. Boy be careful what you ask for. At the time I had everything I needed or so I thought. But I knew I did not have happiness inside of me.
Health started to deteriorate. My Beloved Brother committed suicide, loving uncle died, dad died, laid off of work, lost my house, divorced, realized I was a bad husband. I felt like I disappointed my children. I state all of this because when I was going through this I was relieved. I finally had nothing left and was emotionless and felt nothing. I was tired. I wanted to die and was ready. But I hear my voice inside. To me and only my opinion, that is God. My essence, my soul, My creator, my link to home. I listened. I decided to be happy. my mother had been telling me all along to be happy through anything. It is a waste of time to be sad. Love myself and be happy. Laugh at it all. It is OK to cry but cry and then be happy. Get over yourself and be-strong. Happiness is a choice. I wanted to share this to everyone. I wanted to share this secret. It must be a secret because the world is unhappy and everyone is so upset all the time no one must know and very few people are happy. I wanted to help people again. But not as a pastor.
So fast forward to now. for 5 years now I have been helping people individually. I ask them the same question. What can you control? they give me all sorts of answers. I always tell them the same thing. Your perception. How you perceive everything. Simply…all you can control is your mind, your thoughts and what comes out of your mouth. All you have control over is whether you want to be happy or not.
All I want do is teach people how to be happy. The rest will be solved. Everything will be solved in your life if you realize the secret to happiness. you can have a clearer mind to figure shit out. Sincerely so! I think this is the answer to the worlds problems. Happiness. Yes Happiness.
If you don’t like this story and my answer to this old age question then stop reading now. If I am crazy in your opinion than you have a choice to be miserable and thing your old wrong ways that don’t work. It has worked for me and any others. So there! OK. I will calm down. I love you. I state that at times because you have a choice to be here or not. You have a choice to be happy or not. You can DO or NOT. WE have choices. No one can choose for you.
I started a Meet Up Group.(MeetUp Group Happiness in Rancho Cucamonga) AND in five days I have 30 people either sign up or contact me by email expressing that they need somewhere to be around happiness. 5 days. here is a need for happiness. There it is. The state of mind of this world. We yearn for it. We look for it. We are addicted to it. We look for it in the wrong forms. We think it has to be external to trigger something internal and all along it is internal first. We have to decide first and then we can feel and then share!!! Wake up. it is a choice not an event. You do not need sex drugs or rock and roll. you do not need money or a validation from someone that doesn’t care about you. We have to love ourselves and accept who we are and decide we are good enough and then BE happy. In a room alone for 2 hours with nothing but you and your thoughts. BE Happy. TRY THAT.
ok Im Tired and I am out! See you at the meet up group if you are near by. If not keep reading this blog!
As Always i love you!!!!! So Much!