Every day I meet different people. I help people overcome challenges. I am
always posed with the decision to be irritated with these people because of
their urgency and the way they use me to vent and get it off of their minds and
project their frustration at me….. Or…. I can look behind the veil and wall
they build in front of me and realize they are just believing that they have to
be in the state of mind they are in for them to achieve the answer. 

Why do we always think that we have to endure the pain while we are
experiencing challenging situations? I know we have different cases where there
will be tragedy and we have a time of mourning. Most of these situations were
out of our control and therefore we have to put things into perspective to deal
with them in a safe manner. The safest manner to deal with these situations is
hardly ever the first choice a person will take when going through their
options of dealing with difficult situations.

We often choose to put our bodies through a rigorous event. We fill our
minds up with thoughts that are contradictory to what our body wants. Our body,
mind and soul wants to love and be loved while we go through this challenging
period. We tend to choose the popular path of what the majority does.  We
hardly see people rejoice when they are challenged. That takes courage to align
yourself with greatness and do what the great peaceful leaders do when face
with adversity. They Love all the time! No that is too hard. 

I have a story…..

I know a man within 3 years of his life he lost his father, brother,
divorce, lost his house and job…. Friends turned from him. During all of this
he loved everyone and embraced the radical changes in his life. One by one he
made a decision to look for the best in every situation. The more he felt pain
the more he loved himself and others. He showed gratitude in all areas of his
life that he was able to experience what he did with everyone and everything
even though it has been taken away in some cases.

It isn’t easy to feel gratitude when you lose family members suddenly. But
we have to remember the good in everyone at all times so that we are always
spending every moment and the optimal level of experience. We are not taking
for granted that the moment will be there tomorrow. We tend to take advantage
of the moment expecting tomorrow to come and we might not wake up. To be blunt
you might get shot or hit by a truck! Why the hell are you sleeping in and
texting while your baby is calling you to play!? Who gives a rats ass if you’re
tired! Get up and play with the baby!  

I have 4 children and 6 grandchildren. I love all of them. I think my family
is amazing. Very imperfect and that is why I think they are amazing. I
sometimes have rocky relationships with my children because they are
individuals and they think their own way. All I can do is love them and show
them that love when I see them, talk to them and in this day and age….text
them.

I think texting is bullshit! A wonderful facet of technology, but bullshit.
I see people looking at the floor all day long. I watch as people walk
aimlessly barely paying attention to what they will walk into if they do not
look up once in a while. They are so very intent on sending their message to
the people on the other end. Is it that important? Is it a life threatening
situation that you need to send that message? I see people eating dinner and
all of them are texting instead of sharing their meal together as a time for
bonding. Quit looking at the floor people!

Wake up. You’re dying tonight! Today is your last day. Someone told me you
were going to fall and crack your head open on the sidewalk. IF this is true
how are you going to live your last moments with your family? Are you going to
spend it texting while your innocent child is staring at you wishing you would
take your selfish ass and look at them and listen to their day at school? Or is
it more important to text someone and work about the day’s gossip. You had all
day to do that!!!!

Ok I am calm now. I am not talking about a specific person here nor am I
talking about my life. I watch and observe people and this is what I see and I
bleed inside. Have I wasted time somewhere in my life? Yes for sure I have!
Have you done half of the things on here or are you the perfect person in the
world? Point at me and there are three fingers pointing back at you!

When you gaze in the mirror to see the perfect wonderful person you are and
how amazing you are…… remember there are eyes always watching you. I always
find out the hard way when I think no one’s watching…. Someone is always
watching while you are looking down at the floor.

Quit wasting time. Laugh, smile, love and give of yourself MORE! The rest
will take care of itself. We aren’t perfect but we can LOVE perfectly.

As Always I Love You!

My Rantness will hurt my body if I do not let it out! 

Am I depressed or am I Dealing with Depression?

That is a common question people ask me when they come to me for help when dealing with depression. Am I depressed? The question should always be, how can I be Happy? At least when you ask that question you are admitting you are not happy but you know the direction on which to focus on. Happiness. You have won half the battle when dealing with depression. Focus on wanting to be happy. Direct your energies towards that result. Asking, “why am I depressed?” is keeping in the state of mind of being unhappy. 

I am not a psychologist,
life coach nor am I a professional in any field behavioral science. I am a man
that has a passion for helping people and my life is committed to teaching
people how to be happy. My opinions and teachings have no agenda attached to
them other than this is what I want to do the rest of my life to give to
humanity. Right now there is so much suffering in this world that I think all
of us should contribute to the well-being of the world in some way. If the
majority of us will focus a portion of our daily lives towards this there will
be a dramatic change in consciousness.

There is a growing number of suicidal deaths in younger adults dealing with depression.(See Sucide among Youth Here) These individuals have not even given life a chance to develop into beautiful people. They are giving up on themselves. I have read children as young as 12 are taking their lives because of insecurity issues. A considerable percentage of these deaths are attributed to social media bullying. This is horrible. To me the social media aspect is out of my realm of understanding that a fake world is so influential in a young person’s life that they would take their lives. What was a fun activity of staying in touch with their friends turned into a threatening environment, as dangerous as walking in a bad neighborhood in the middle of the night. A virtual bad neighborhood. Weird! But very real along side with the stress of dealing with depression.

This is one aspect of a growing trend of dealing with depression in our world. Another growing area is in affluent adults. People with a lot of money. How the hell can they be unhappy? What triggers that part of them when they have everything? Why are these people dealing with depression? They have amassed a fortune in their careers and yet they seem to believe that they do not have anything. Is it Money cannot buy love? I have helped some individuals that have the financial freedom to go anywhere and be anything they want to be and they are unhappy [py. When posed with the question of why they are unhappy ultimately they give me that answer of being lonely. They alienate themselves from family and friends because they think everyone wants their money. Or in some cases they are ashamed because they are so “successful” they are embarrassed to be around others they know who are not in the financial situation they are in. They are not happy and cannot figure out why people in a lower financial class are more happy and abundant than they are. This fact alone haunts them and they search for external stimuli to replace the emptiness they feel from loneliness. They lie to themselves and surround themselves with superficial people and things as a substitute. This is very shallow and temporary. Eventually they realize the truth and fall in a deeper depression than before. 

First of all You have to “love Yourself” I know this is a cliché statement. This idea is very true. At least you have to accept who you are in your present reality. If you want to change this reality you have to know where you are starting from and focus on where you want to be. So instead of asking yourself “Am I Depressed?” you will start asking yourself “How can I be Happy?” Once this is figured out the work begins. It is hard work! This is a journey that never ends and always continues. When you figure out how experience victories through this work you will be addicted to the results and the problems in your life will seem ridiculous challenges that are overcome with joy. The sad and tragic moments in life will be what they are but you will appreciate the strength you receive from those experiences and can recover quicker. 

As I mentioned before, I
am just a regular person with a passion for helping people. You have decided to
read this far you have connected to some degree with what I have written. I
hope and pray you receive a message that can bring an answer to what you are
searching for. Read my other articles here. My style is very impromptu and
un-edited. I write as I think it and then post the shit out of it.

I Love You! I always have compassion for my fellow man and unconditional love for all the people hurting out there. Sometimes pain and suffering makes us do bad things especially when we are dealing with depression. That is where the unconditional part comes to play. There is a fine line. Only you know where it starts and ends.  

Please see my other articles on Depression.

Depression ( Five Signs of Suffering)

Clinical Depression 

Depression Treatment

I often write of the perception we have in our
lives. I believe that we have a choice to observe and decide whether it is a
positive or a negative experience. We have the ability to create that emotion
on the fly. This emotion that we create can affect our health and or wellbeing.
This random choice we have can affect others around us. It is random because we
change into any state of mind at any given time.

Changing from one extreme to another is destructive
to our psyche. We take our bodies through highs and lows and extreme emotions.
These emotions are very powerful. Emotions are not just feelings, emotions are
energy that is created or re-directed and transformed into a physical property.
Emotions are energy, energy is a physical property. Our cells are comprised of
energy. Therefore our emotions are intertwined to our physical make up. Our
emotions and bodies are one in the same not a separate entity or thing.  

In order for us to stay healthy and have a clear
mind we need to regulate this creation of energy in our emotional states of
mind. If we are constantly looking positive energy, which is positive emotions
we will be at peace with ourselves and our energy will be a healing energy.
Positive emotions trigger healing and produce positive processes to be started
in our bodies. We are able to focus because we are in a calm state of mind.

When we create a negative emotional state of mind
our bodies are stressed out the majority of the time. We are burdening our
bodies with chasing the bus. We are always trying to catch something. In
essence we are running a marathon listening to a voice in our earphones telling
us we aren’t good enough, we are slow, out of shape, we are going to fail and
quit.

Every morning we should be waking up smiling and
looking at what the day will bring us. When we wake every day we should be
contemplating how we are going to be happy in any situation. I share with
people on a daily basis that they have the ability to decide happiness and joy
with the power within that realm of thought to heal themselves. The majority of
people tell me that it is a new age thought or religious believes. They are not
religious nor do they believe in any philosophy of ideas where there is no
scientific proof. They believe my way of thinking is just hocus pocus.

What I teach is science based. Changing your
mindset. Creating thought and treating it as you are creating a physical
manifestation of something out of energy. Energy IS a physical property. That
is science. It is not just an emotion or thought. It is a thought and an
emotion but yet it is also a “thing” we create.

Be aware of what you are thinking today. Be aware of
what you are creating today. You have control of that process. You are in
control of your emotional state of mind. Change it. NOW! Hurry!