Control Your Thoughts
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My hope and prayer for everyone reading this post is that you are living a life of true happiness. What do I mean by true happiness? Being calm during a storm. Expecting the best outcome from your faith in knowing that all is for the good. Romans 8:28 “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” That verse is so true. If we truly have happiness that verse can ring true in any culture and religion. It is simple yet so powerful. The outcome is always for the good if we have faith in that statement. In a general sense. Meaning a non-religious or other than the scripture I believe in, we can all agree that when there are hard times there is always a lesson to be learned and we get stronger because of the challenge we experienced. There is always a better outcome than what we endured. For one the pain has stopped or we have learned to overcome and or live with the reality of life. We appreciate that the life we have now has flavor. We can overcome anything after we have experienced adversity. Most will be stronger. Some will continue to struggle because the lesson was ignored.
It is my belief…and you don’t have to continue to read this…but it is my belief that we all travel this journey and are on three planes of thought or existence. I am not talking about multi dimension…although some say the mind alters our existence through thought and we create alternate dimensions of our destiny. We all travel on 3 choices of thought.
The first plane of thought is that of expecting the worst in life, living in constant worry, pain and negativity. We complain, accuse and disregard others happiness because we want to invite them to our misery. In this plane the days go by so fast. We have lapses in our memory. We feel like everyone should carry us and look for all the shoulders to cry on and ears to bend so that we can justify through their encouragement of displeasure they can add to what we are already experiencing. In essence you are not living and a member of a sad community. It becomes very accommodating and comfortable like an addiction. You need more and want to gravitate towards all these people that love and thrive off of the negative talk and gossip. It so dark in this thought that the brightest light cannot guide you out of it. Most do not even know how to love. I could go on about this plane of thought but as I am talking I am tempted to start complaining and throwing non-edifying opinions of others. I sometimes find myself engaging in these conversations and hurt the progress I have achieved in my life from even 15 minutes of this kind of thought or conversation. We enjoy the flavor of disease and disgust. We look for the irrational thinking of violence and hate. We fall in love with the sadness that makes us so emotional and justifies our destructive behavior and we ask for tolerance for the vices we partake in because we have the excuse now.
I described the extreme. There is the subtle quiet version of this plane. It is far more destructive. It’s called depression. Passive aggressive thought and behavior. Some believe they will just keep it to themselves and suffer quietly. Innocently not asking for help because they do not want to or do not think anyone will want to help. So they suffer in loneliness. Self-pity and denial. They aggregate the problem by choosing to be alone during this drought of happiness. They will avoid and stay away from everyone and keep to themselves. One day they explode. Damaging and continuing an ever revolving cycle they teach their children and loved ones that look up to them. This thought is more addicting and damaging. This causes people to hurt themselves with internal destructive behaviors. Self-inflicting emotional punishments. I would rather get punched in the face 100 times than have my loved ones turn their backs on me from my behavior.
The higher level plane is a sometimes deceiving plane that many people travel in. It takes a lot of energy to travel in this plane. People often travel in this plane to impress, a hidden agenda, self-serving, denial, escape, disguise, running away, pretending, self-medicate. Positivism through synthetic stimuli. This plane is a very dangerous plane to travel on. We aim to travel on this plane to be as far away from the first one as possible. We want to create the high so that we have the re-assurance that the low is too far away to ever pull us down. We believe every lie we tell ourselves like….”no that never happened, no not me!” We ignore that past and the pain, we keep it behind us and act as if it doesn’t exist. We keep it in the room in the recesses of our memories. We try and keep the door closed for as long as we can and not deal with what it truly is. We fear it coming out and showing its ugly teeth. We don’t like the smell of it. We try and bath it and clean it up so no one will smell it and know we have it in us. People travel very high to avoid seeing this plain. They do not look down to acknowledge the thing that keeps them from sleeping when they are alone. They try and hide the thing that when all the noise is off all they can hear is this thing. The money, the accolades, the prestige, the Ivy League education, family riches, or accumulative riches, all the material stimuli cannot quench the loneliness of pain you feel. The smallest thing can trigger you and YOU WILL fall hard down to the first level of crap you were trying so hard to avoid. You worked so hard not to face the problems. You developed a technique of hiding behind life and think that your fear and unhappiness can be replaced by other distractions and vices. It will be always there. Unhappiness. True Unhappiness will be there. Because you will not embrace your failures and challenges. You will not look in the mirror and love the imperfect you. You will not look at the mirror and see how amazing you are by yourself. You will hide and pretend.
The plane that is the hardest to achieve is a middle plane of thought. A plane that takes a lot of work. It is a conditioning of thought. It takes hard work. In this plane you can be mindful of all your imperfections and love them. You use them to overcome challenges. You embrace them to remember and appreciate who you are. You look in the mirror and see the beautiful creation that was given a great opportunity and purpose. You spend your life aware. You love unconditionally. You forgive yourself. You love yourself. You live life as an ambassador of love and kindness. You breathe happiness and joy. You see everything for the good. You teach others and smile. You expect nothing in return from giving love. You are addicted to loving others. You see God in everyone because he is who created us. The miracle of your body and mind are enough for the proof of existence of an infinite universe because you know that the atoms that compose our biological structure are eternally micro as well as eternally macro. You embrace the philosophies of science because they prove you are a part and connected to the WHY….
Traveling in this plane is powerful. You know that pretending to always be happy when you are in pain is setting you up for a harder fall. You know that living in misery is one step away from a short lived life and exposing everyone that looks at you and loves you to undeserved suffering. You cause suffering when you are selfish. I have many people that tell me “if everything will turn out for the good then why you want everyone to be so concerned with living happy, when we leave this body we leave the weight of all that is entailed in this body behind.” My response is… you do not know what eyes are on you and who is following your lead, it is selfish of you to let someone suffer because of your leading them down that road. Be mindful of who you are and what you display. The eyes of babes might be using you as an example.
Traveling in a middle plane is amazing because you are always learning and loving at the same time. You are present. You live in wisdom. You live faithful in l. You love unconditional. There is a view of all planes of thought because your mind can learn from your conditioning of it. You always are reading positive literature. Your edification of your mind body and soul is of the utmost importance. You always want to surround yourself with positive people. You embrace the negative people and love them and not run away. You are more inclined to love them than complain about them. Your love for them grows stronger as you get stronger.
Life is beautiful. You are saddened by the violence and hatred but try and bestow a love upon the victims. It is something we cannot control. People put themselves on a path to destruction and there is collateral damage along the way and it is unfortunate. If that tragedy is ultimately coming my way and I cannot avoid it I might as well just enjoy those last moments loving my precious life and those around me and solidify my legacy of love. What else can I do, that is what I have control over is my perception of life. I live on that plane of existence. I live my days looking for opportunities to love everyone. I want to put smiles on people’s faces anywhere and everywhere. If I am not accepted I cannot control that but I can control the tolerance I have for the bullshit I have to endure. My tolerance is high because I LOVE THE BULLSHITTER AS WELL BUT NOT THE BULLSHIT. Ok so I get carried away
Give Love. You are made of it. Learn to receive Love, you deserve it and it is your right.
As always… I truly Love YOU
I have been missing from this site the past week or so because I have been struggling with happiness. Yes I have been struggling with Happiness. Let me re-phrase that….I have been dealing with some blockages recently. I wake up thinking and over thinking these challenges and how to solve them. I have in my thoughts all these scenarios I replay over and over like a you tube video. I can only see the screen on the video in my head and with blinders on I am distracted and cannot see anything else. I am helping people with their issues, problems and challenges and I forget to look in the mirror and clean out the gutter in my head.
I am clear now. I still do not have an answer for all my challenges. But if I worry about them I will be letting life pass me by and my focus will be on the negative aspect instead of the positive outcome of whatever it is I am experiencing. I have always said that all is for the good. I am taking on a new road in my life and it is still a journey. I am still moving forward. Time always moves forward whether we are alert, onboard or think that life is going to pause for us until we figure it out. Our physical time here in the flesh present…. We are here and that biological clock is still recording time. We have to take an assessment and take stock of our priorities. What is important in the bigger picture? What is waste? Waste is when you are creating situations which take you away from your purpose, loving and helping others. I have been creating waste. Although I have been helping others I have not been a good steward of my time that was given to me by the wonderful God that created me. Yes I believe in God and the story of a man called his son coming down upon us to teach us a thing or two of love and toughness. Love as in unconditional. Unconditional is a powerful word. That means loving everyone like you would want to be loved. Toughness means unconditional love. That means giving of yourself unconditionally. WOW what a concept. It was a simple message and yet it has been twisted.
I have embarked on few projects that entail using my free time to help others. Without going into detail I am not doing anything extra special or nor am I looking for a pat on the back…I am reporting to you because I want everyone reading this to realize they have to do the same, We have to realize that the only way humanity will change is if we individually change our perceptions of the world around us. The only important perception in my OPINION is LOVE! Love unconditionally and everything else falls into place. Our world is falling apart from greed and power hungry individuals and entities…..Entities not countries. We should not be naïve to believe that the world ran by a set country. It is run by the appetite for power. I have no control over that concept. Therefore I will not consume every waking moment of my life worrying about the POWERS to be. I will love until my last breathe teach my children and grandchildren leaving a legacy as such.
Where are you? Why are you so upset with the world? Why are you believing that your life is predicated by the dollar you get upset about? If you multiply that dollar and acquire more will it make you happy? Or will you spend it and then spend more time figuring out ways to acquire more? It will never end. I want to acquire more love. I want to give more of myself. If I am going to look for more it is for the reason of freeing up my time to give more of my time.
I will not be a dog chasing my tail for anyone any longer. I will not lose my focus on useless doings. I am so useless when I focus on these insignificant things and people. I walk daily being tempted and allowing myself to fall into so many traps that I get overwhelmed and distracted away from the purpose I have been given. Again I say I have been a bad steward for the creator that thought of me.
Moving forward, tomorrow a new day. Today was purposeful. I pray that I use my time wisely and create a plan if I am blessed to wake, to improve the perceptions of the world one person at a time. If I am blessed enough to influence multitudes at once then I will be a responsible one to give them the right message. One of LOVE.