I have been missing from this site the past week or so because I have been struggling with happiness. Yes I have been struggling with Happiness. Let me re-phrase that….I have been dealing with some blockages recently. I wake up thinking and over thinking these challenges and how to solve them. I have in my thoughts all these scenarios I replay over and over like a you tube video. I can only see the screen on the video in my head and with blinders on I am distracted and cannot see anything else. I am helping people with their issues, problems and challenges and I forget to look in the mirror and clean out the gutter in my head.
I am clear now. I still do not have an answer for all my challenges. But if I worry about them I will be letting life pass me by and my focus will be on the negative aspect instead of the positive outcome of whatever it is I am experiencing. I have always said that all is for the good. I am taking on a new road in my life and it is still a journey. I am still moving forward. Time always moves forward whether we are alert, onboard or think that life is going to pause for us until we figure it out. Our physical time here in the flesh present…. We are here and that biological clock is still recording time. We have to take an assessment and take stock of our priorities. What is important in the bigger picture? What is waste? Waste is when you are creating situations which take you away from your purpose, loving and helping others. I have been creating waste. Although I have been helping others I have not been a good steward of my time that was given to me by the wonderful God that created me. Yes I believe in God and the story of a man called his son coming down upon us to teach us a thing or two of love and toughness. Love as in unconditional. Unconditional is a powerful word. That means loving everyone like you would want to be loved. Toughness means unconditional love. That means giving of yourself unconditionally. WOW what a concept. It was a simple message and yet it has been twisted.
I have embarked on few projects that entail using my free time to help others. Without going into detail I am not doing anything extra special or nor am I looking for a pat on the back…I am reporting to you because I want everyone reading this to realize they have to do the same, We have to realize that the only way humanity will change is if we individually change our perceptions of the world around us. The only important perception in my OPINION is LOVE! Love unconditionally and everything else falls into place. Our world is falling apart from greed and power hungry individuals and entities…..Entities not countries. We should not be naïve to believe that the world ran by a set country. It is run by the appetite for power. I have no control over that concept. Therefore I will not consume every waking moment of my life worrying about the POWERS to be. I will love until my last breathe teach my children and grandchildren leaving a legacy as such.
Where are you? Why are you so upset with the world? Why are you believing that your life is predicated by the dollar you get upset about? If you multiply that dollar and acquire more will it make you happy? Or will you spend it and then spend more time figuring out ways to acquire more? It will never end. I want to acquire more love. I want to give more of myself. If I am going to look for more it is for the reason of freeing up my time to give more of my time.
I will not be a dog chasing my tail for anyone any longer. I will not lose my focus on useless doings. I am so useless when I focus on these insignificant things and people. I walk daily being tempted and allowing myself to fall into so many traps that I get overwhelmed and distracted away from the purpose I have been given. Again I say I have been a bad steward for the creator that thought of me.
Moving forward, tomorrow a new day. Today was purposeful. I pray that I use my time wisely and create a plan if I am blessed to wake, to improve the perceptions of the world one person at a time. If I am blessed enough to influence multitudes at once then I will be a responsible one to give them the right message. One of LOVE.

What makes you mad?

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I would like to tell you all a little bit about myself as it relates to what I do here in this blog and my life. I have spent the better part of my adult life lost. Lost because I had a purpose, a vision and a calling but did not have the courage to follow my dream. A dream of helping people. Part of the hesitation was fear. Fear of rejection or being criticized. Fear of not being normal. Fear of being outcast or hurt by the people closest to me. My family. I have always been called to a vocational role in life. Helping humanity or people in general. Helping humanity to me was going on a missionary or “Peace Corps” type of commitment. Which I was ready at a very young age. That is another story altogether.

When I was in my mid 20’s i became involved with an outreach church. Very involved in the community. I was encouraged to become a pastor. So I was happy to help people and if that meant becoming a pastor to achieve my dream, whether I was comfortable or not I did it. I loved it! I fell in love with the people. I was young. Having people come to me old enough to be my parents asking for help was very intimidating. I was suppose to have the answers. At 26 I would ask these people coming to me, “are you happy?”. I would always get the same answer. “It doesn’t matter whether I am happy or not, help me with my problem”.

That is where it began.

I realized that people wanted the easy way out. They wanted someone to give them the answer without putting in the work. Being happy is work. Staying happy is work. Sharing happiness is work. It is the most rewarding work you will ever embark on. It brings good health and great results. It is a free process and it is easy to apply. The concept is simple. But it is hard work. It sounds contradicting, easy and hard work.

If you are familiar with my story and what I have written about mindset you will understand this contradiction. I have read so many different authors, doctors, psychologists, therapists, motivational speakers and so on…… They all have great methods and processes. I do not have the level of education that they have. Nor do I want to have to pay back the loans. I do not have the genius and knowledge that these individuals have gained through their studies. I cannot articulate myself as eloquently as they. I only have a message that I have had in my soul, my essence, my being…. We ALL have a choice to be happy. It is inside of each and everyone of us. We are born looking for nurturing. We gravitate towards joy. We are hungry to be fed by love. We yearn for attention. As children we look for any sort of attention. If we are suffering from a mommy daddy syndrome deficiency(if that is even a plausible word) we look for a replacement in the type of people we chose as a partner. We replace our emptiness with vices and self medicate in many different ways. There are so many studies to our human nature requiring us to be loved and as to why??. I might not have the credentials to make any statements on this subject. If you do not like what I am saying get out of my blog. Stop reading now and do not upset yourself. If you continue I will do my best to love you through my words as a friend and  someone that has nothing to gain from this blog. I have no hidden agenda. I am not trying to convince you to buy a product. I am not advertising any links here for you to click and I make pay per clicks. I am here for my love of people.

I am here to tell you what my soul is crying out. I am here to express my love for this world that is bleeding with misery, depression, anxiety, war, phobias, fear, anger, resentment, hurt, and so on and so forth. What is my message? Be Happy! Choose to be happy. Open your eyes. If someone or something makes you sad or upset because your perception of the situation is that it is directed towards you, and you choose to be sad because of it….Ask yourself this…”Can I control it?” “Can I control the person directing their pain towards me?”. More than likely not. So why waste time worrying about them or it or whatever…. You will waste your time. Spend your time choosing to remain in a happy state wishing that person the best and encouraging if they want to accept. If not remove yourself or avoid the emotion that allows them to affect you. Do not avoid them, Avoid the negative emotion and be a beacon for happiness.

Make sense? Choose to be happy.

Ok. I REALLY got off topic.

Back to the young Pastor that was ME> I did not see eye to eye with the pastor over me so Left. He wanted me to teach a certain way I wanted to teach people how to be happy. He said it was irrelevant. I said I wasn’t ready to be a pastor his way. So I left. I let down many people. It hurt me for a long time. I spent a greater part of my adult life feeling sorry for myself and unhappy. I do not know why to this day. Fast forward to 2007. My life started to change. Because I was fed up and asked God…. I want to be happy now. Boy be careful what you ask for. At the time I had everything I needed or so I thought. But I knew I did not have happiness inside of me.

Health started to deteriorate. My Beloved Brother committed suicide, loving uncle died, dad died, laid off of work, lost my house, divorced, realized I was a bad husband. I felt like I disappointed my children. I state all of this because when I was going through this I was relieved. I finally had nothing left and was emotionless and felt nothing. I was tired. I wanted to die and was ready. But I hear my voice inside. To me and only my opinion, that is God. My essence, my soul, My creator, my link to home. I listened. I decided to be happy. my mother had been telling me all along to be happy through anything. It is a waste of time to be sad. Love myself and be happy. Laugh at it all. It is OK to cry but cry and then be happy. Get over yourself and be-strong. Happiness is a choice. I wanted to share this to everyone. I wanted to share this secret. It must be a secret because the world is unhappy and everyone is so upset all the time no one must know and very few people are happy. I wanted to help people again. But not as a pastor.

So fast forward to now. for 5 years now I have been helping people individually. I ask them the same question. What can you control? they give me all sorts of answers. I always tell them the same thing. Your perception. How you perceive everything. Simply…all you can control is your mind, your thoughts and what comes out of your mouth. All you have control over is whether you want to be happy or not.

All I want do is teach people how to be happy. The rest will be solved. Everything will be solved in your life if you realize the secret to happiness. you can have a clearer mind to figure shit out. Sincerely so! I think this is the answer to the worlds problems. Happiness. Yes Happiness.

If you don’t like this story and my answer to this old age question then stop reading now. If I am crazy in your opinion than you have a choice to be miserable and thing your old wrong ways that don’t work. It has worked for me and any others. So there! OK. I will calm down. I love you. I state that at times because you have a choice to be here or not. You have a choice to be happy or not. You can DO or NOT. WE have choices. No one can choose for you.

I started a Meet Up Group.(MeetUp Group Happiness in Rancho Cucamonga) AND in five days I have 30 people either sign up or contact me by email expressing that they need somewhere to be around happiness. 5 days. here is a need for happiness. There it is. The state of mind of this world. We yearn for it. We look for it. We are addicted to it. We look for it in the wrong forms. We think it has to be external to trigger something internal and all along it is internal first. We have to decide first and then we can feel and then share!!! Wake up. it is a choice not an event. You do not need sex drugs or rock and roll. you do not need money or a validation from someone that doesn’t care about you. We have to love ourselves and accept who we are and decide we are good enough and then BE happy. In a room alone for 2 hours with nothing but you and your thoughts. BE Happy. TRY THAT.

ok Im Tired and I am out! See you at the meet up group if you are near by. If not keep reading this blog!

As Always i love you!!!!! So Much!