What is your legacy? People do not think of that as they age. How do you live your life and who’s is watching you? You do not have to be a parent to pass on your legacy. You can give the world love and kindness and ask for nothing in return. Have a giving heart and a compassionate way about you. Invest in something that improves our world. Invest your time and concern. Work with your schedule wherever you are to express yourself as a caring co-inhabitant of this planet. Spread your kind words. Join a positive group that gives unconditional love to all. Truly mean Good Morning when you say it. Start the day with love. Do not just plan to leave a legacy …. Fight to live it!

Our lives are all connected and we affect one other in so many ways at many different levels. Our butterfly affect is real. We could literally impact peace all over the globe if we smile at one person. By chance that could be someone that had given up hope and goes on to be a hero that saves millions from disaster because of that smile of hope. I am a dreamer and a romantic. I love people. I pray everyday for the people I have hurt and hope that one day they will forgive me and cherish the wonderful moments we spent together as brothers and sisters in this dysfunctional family we call the human race.

Of course there are those that are selfish and sick. Power, money, self gratification with violence filling a void in themselves with a perverse stimuli that they decide equates to happiness. I have had my vices and weaknesses and made excuses for them. In the end I was trying to find all justification to hurt myself. I end up hurting my legacy I so desperately want to leave my family friends and special people that I have a blessing and privilege to help. It is not easy. Find someone to tell that secret to. Find accountability. Put yourself in check. Happiness is a choice not an external “thing” that is a trigger. We have the trigger it is called choice.

I write in this blog for one reason only. I want to share my heart in hopes of putting a smile on your face by teaching you how to decide to be happy just because. Happiness is free. Create Your Legacy Today. Start from scratch now. It is never too late. Be happy from this moment forward regardless of the circumstances and your world will change immediately. And then teach one person what you have learned. And help them teach someone. A beautiful cycle .

I Love You

There is so much in life to to see. There is so much in life to experience. People to love. Lives to inspire and connect with. Sometimes we get caught in a rut and think we have to rush everything in our life. Sometimes we look for that moment when we can slow down and enjoy our lives because we are too busy right now. Funny. All we have to do is slow down look around and realize that every moment in our daily routine is filled with inspiration, love and beautiful connections with anyone and everyone. I think we have been numb to the world. I believe in my heart that this world is lonely as a whole. I see the news, I see the results of decisions made by our world leaders. I listen to the pain caused by distorted ways of thinking that causes people to lash out in violence against innocence. We watch and hear of stories where world leaders called women and children being killed in war as collateral damage. Young boys, men, fathers and sons being slaughtered because they voice out against oppression. Brave women standing side by side losing their lives. The effects of which children are also orphaned. Most of the worlds tragedies other than natural causes are the result of a human belief. An opinion that is forced upon a society. We watch and think we are helpless. We realize that all of these precious lives are martyrs. because in the bigger picture doesn’t change require sacrifice? But the cost is sometimes so high. The media glorifies it to make a great story with dramatic picture. Stunning soundbites. Graphic yet gripping images of war and struggle. They brand these human experience with big strong bold words. They sell it to the highest bidder. War has never been any less destructive nor has it been any more romantic. It has always taken big numbers from this world. It has always taken its toll on a populace(Hiroshima/Germany/Syria/Darfur). But they call it sacrifice for change. there have been genocidal events in our history which have wiped out countless families by the generations. Yet we look back at it as a moment in history. Now the media is so dominant. We have a play by play, step by step. We even influence the outcome at times. So we can use our voice for good. We can communicate to each other against tirrany. where is the improvement? How can we use technology to bring peace? How can we use this opportunity in our human history to gain momentum against hate, destruction, war and so on. These might be my thoughts. These might be words spawned by what I hear see and experience. But what i tell you as my readers, all 3 of you is this. Create joy. We are all creators.We all have the strength and the power to love, create love, create joy, happiness and positivity. Quit making excuses for your misery whatever it is. It is a human experience. We create strength from our obstacles and challenges to be powerful. We love more. We laugh more. We appreciate more. If there is anything else in life to do before we take our last breath is to Love.

Turn the Switch On/Off?
Our attitude is like a switch. We turn it on to be a certain way or we turn it off to be a certain way. Either way we have full control of what we dish out and what we take in. That is about the only thing we have control over is that switch. I tell this to people that come to me to help them with their problems.

Problems. I have people come to me with their problems and I tell them the same thing. I cannot give you the answer to your problems but I can give you guidance on how to control the perception you have of everything you take in. We all have a choice and have control over that attitude we have towards everything in life. We can either be traumatized by life or take each experience and value it as that, an experience to learn and grow from.

I try and show people that the thought process in our minds is so important to the healing from all situations. We have to acknowledge that we have to go through the pain and then control the results of that, either we are appreciative of the process or we reject that notion and feel self pity. Our hurt can turn into long lasting effects or we can grow from it and teach others that we are all experiencing the same thing and we have the knowledge within us to move on.

We are all born with joy and lose it as we grow. WE lose it through environmental influence. We at some point take into consideration all the input we receive whether it is good or bad and apply internally. We find out the lazy way to live. We find it easy to be miserable and sad during tough patches and reject the notion to work through it and reap the benefits of being happy and appreciative. We struggle with the idea of staying positive as being too hard, and we find all sorts of excuses to accept the contrary.

To me it is easier to just turn the switch on for happiness and turn the switch off for fear. I would rather reject fear and be brave and experience life. Fear is the reason we are all in a world of shit. We fear everything. We fear love and acceptance. We fear tolerance with love. We fear LOVE. We fear Loving one another. We associate love with the wrong things and we use fear as a crutch. Fear is addictive. Love is a struggle. We feel so insecure when we address that in our lives. yet everywhere people are looking for love. We are intimidated by people who smile at us in public thinking the worse of them for doing so. We would rather receive a dirty look than a smile. At least we are used to and accustom to the frown rather than the frown upside down.

We have to train ourselves to reach out to people and just say hi, that’s all! We have to look at our fellow human beings as our brothers and sisters. because in essence whether we believe in “something” or not we are all human beings and the universe is a sandbox and we are a grain of that sand.

“The ‘decision to be happy’ is actually the decision to stop being happy”-Barry Neil Kaufman
We are born and we crave nurturing. We leave the womb of protection and realize we are in a very hostile environment. We conform and adapt to the environment. But at our essence we want and crave the security of love and the mothers womb. The warmth of that blanket. Cuddling and holding. Joy is what we crave. it is the same sensation. Happiness is what we search for. It is the same stimuli. As we mature in life we look for that or a close replacement. A replacement can mean a stimuli that can mimic the feeling. Drugs, sex, alcohol, anger, violence, addictions…..anything to feel at peace to quiet the voices. We are so reliant on a pacifier. We need that support. Instead of looking within we look outside. We have all the tools to cure this need and craving. It is a choice.

You can tell me how hard it is and describe all your problems and worries. At its core it is a choice. Change the perception you were taught to have of your life. trying to not feel the pain is not a way to be happy. Facing the pain, dealing with it and accepting it as a part of our journey. Making a choice to continue on being appreciative and happy. We have a decision daily that is given. We make the decision for ourselves. To be or not. To feel or not.

I personally struggle with this decision everyday. Everyday I have to focus and dig deep with myself to overcome years of anxiety, depression and worry. I was always very insecure about who I was and how others perceive me. I struggled as a young person looking at life as a good thing. I looked at life as a horrible joke being played on us and why do we have to go through these rituals. grow up, go to school, work, make money, lose money, get married, get divorced……it goes on. Disappointment. Heartache. Everyday we have to fight for what we are. It is work. The end result is always worth the struggle. Happiness.