mindset

Why Am I Unhappy?

I am unhappy for the excuses I make to justify feeling unhappy. I wake up every morning thinking of all the things that went wrong yesterday and what is bound to happen today. I think of all the people who are in my way and irritate the crap out of me. I think of the person next to me that does not love me anymore. I am unhappy because I feel sorry for myself and the situation I wake up to every day. There are so many more countless justifications that I remind myself to keep me to be unhappy everyday all day long. At some point it will drive me crazy ….

That is what is called a nervous breakdown.

How did we get this way? Conditioning from a very young age? Life experience, trauma and or tragedy. There are so many situations that we allow to be responsible for our present day life. We become lazy and blame the easiest available thing or person and loved one. Instead of taking stock and owning the decision we made to be unhappy. You can list a page full of excuses to be unhappy and I can sing the praises of the reasons to be happy.

This is a journey we are on. We are travelers experiencing different chapters in the story of this wonderful trip we are on. We are writing a story for ourselves, Believe it or not we are in full control of the content. We can either write the story fully in control or we can allow others to have control of our story letting them place us as actors in theirs.
It is really simple to write your own happiness story. That is the only story we should focus on. The SIMPLICITY of Happiness story.

We are the authors of our story. We write it and no one else should be responsible for the content except ourselves. We struggle because of fear. We are afraid to be brave and adventurous. Find the hard roads to take. The hard roads are our passions and loves. The things that give us purpose. The situations that bring us joy and happiness. We are afraid to try those things that are perceived as too far-reaching.

I have wanted to be a public speaker since I was very young. At one point I wanted to be a priest or a pastor because I thought that was an honorable way of helping people and I can still be standing in front of the masses to encourage and empower. I did that and it was not fulfilling. I did not feel myself. I was more stressed out. I am now a mentor of happiness. I am a Happiness Coach. I am whatever you want to call someone who wants to teach people the SIMPLICITY of Happiness to anyone and everyone.

I have my dream. I have the reality that I want to transfer from a dream reality to a physical reality. I want to stand in front of hundreds of people at once speaking to their hearts. I thought that this feat was only through a physical sense. How naive I am. I can reach millions by speaking on the internet through different social media platforms. I still offer myself face to face. I want to be available to everyone. I thought my dream was unattainable. I was not happy because I thought I was not good enough. I convinced myself it was impossible. So I started to believe this for years. One day I realized I can convince myself to believe the opposite.

I was a very late bloomer when it came to my artistic ability. I was called an artist for the first time in my life when I was 43 years old. It was amazing. I believed I was an artist. I acted as an artist. Then I was in a gallery and I was thought of as an artist from that day forward. I created my own reality.

You can create your own happiness the same way. Believe, and then just be. Eventually your physical world will catch up to your dreams. Happiness will consume you because you will believe that is what you feel every day. Try it. If you want to know my step by step easy to follow program subscribe to my blog and I will send you the program for free. I just want to help you be happy. Let go of the fear and stop letting your life deteriorate. No one person or thing is worth your life if they don’t value you the way you value them.

Quit Your Bitching and Moaning!I often use this and it recently got me in trouble but I will not stop saying it to people. If it offends someone then I guess I am on the right track. I am not saying this statement with the intent to offend anyone… I actually say it with all the compassion my heart can put out there. I love people so much that I want to have an awakening of consciousness to believe in the positivity to overcome challenging moments rather than complain thinking that will be a way of dealing with it. Complaining only adds to the pain and prepares you for more negativity. It is like you addicted to the wrong things that happen in your life. Instead of looking at events that are painful in your life as a negative we need to look at these moments as opportunities to strengthen our resolve and resiliency.
Love is a great answer and it gives us clarity to find a solution in any moment of challenge in our lives. If we start from a place of love then we can repel attacks that are unwarranted. We think we are being attacked intentionally and most times we are just in the line of fire for someone else’s experience. We need to realize that. I agree there is a percentage of moments where people are attacking us personally…. Even then we can respond with love internally first and then outwardly. Internally knowing we are good and no one else’s opinion or attack can be taken personal. Outwardly not being violent and or falling into the mindset they are in.
We have to be a beacon of light showing the world and more specifically our loved ones and those close to us in our daily grind that we are positive beings being courageous fighting for a happiness mindset. Having a happiness mindset takes hard work and consistency. We have to continually know that our perception starts with an acknowledgment and an acceptance of who we are in a current state. We need to live in the (cliché) moment! Yes living in the moment and being mindful that this moment will create tomorrow. If we are in a negative state of mind in the present moment chances are we are creating a negative tomorrow by reaping what we sowed today.
Getting back to the title and my justification for continuing to say what I said….
Quit your bitching and moaning! Because you will plant of seed of negativity in your life and acknowledge that you are what is coming out of your mouth…hence….everything you are complaining about!

What is Unconditional Love?

Unconditional love is known as affection without any limitations or love without conditions. This term is sometimes associated with other terms such as true altruism, or complete love.

I am writing to describe how we perceive unconditional love. When I ask people what they think unconditional love is they respond so negatively. People seem to think loving without boundaries is a bad thing. I think we let our ego take over and that is what causes pain. We are so quick to judge one another and the wall begins to keep us apart.

We are a loving species. We re-create one another through love, we heal through love, we love emotionally and deeply. We hurt and feel so much pain when we lose love. Love is such a huge word to discuss.

I want to detail my specific take on unconditional love. I want to share how Accepting ourselves Unconditionally is Love at its highest level. Accepting how and who we are is strength. Loving ourselves unconditionally is fearless love. We can grow from the point we accept ourselves in this way. Most of us look in the mirror and are not happy with what we see. We are so imperfect in our own eyes and yet we do not see how perfect of a creation we are. We are capable of creating anything we want to.

The most perfect creation is our mind. We are creative beings. The mind is capable of so much power…. The power to heal, the power to create, the power to feel. We have the power to have a voice and a choice for ourselves. We also have the unique ability to forgive. We have a choice to love our-self.

If we do anything in this life we have so short of time…. to love ourselves is the primary thing we need to focus on. The world is in a bad place because people are very unhappy. They are unhappy because they cannot accept themselves. It is a vicious cycle. Quit making excuses. Love yourself. It is very simple. Your life could end tomorrow. You are wasting time. There are so many people that want to try…. you get in their way because you infect them with your negativity. If you care about your loved ones wake up and love yourself so that you can be that example.

I Love You.

A Strategy for Happiness

We think that happy people and unhappy people are born that way… Both will do and live in a way that strengthen those mindsets. Happy people will continue to enjoy the mindset that helps them thrive and enjoy life. Unhappy people will continue to think negatively and self-destruct doing and accepting things to upset them.

How does a successful business operate? They have a plan and purpose for their business. They have defined their purpose and created a strategy to accomplish that purpose. The same approach can be used by people in their daily lives. Define what it is you want and create a strategy to attain it.

When a business has a planned strategy they have a buy in from their employees, they are passionate about the purpose. Everything they do in their daily operation is geared towards taking strides towards attaining the goal. Every challenging moment in the business is just another experience as a lesson to gain knowledge for improvement. All of the decisions are measured and recorded to teach the employees that the failure is a steppingstone towards success. In order to succeed you have to know what failure is. I say again…. In order to appreciate the successes you have to know what it feels like to fail.

On a personal perspective you have to have a life purpose and passion. Waking up every day knowing that you are passionate about something and you will do anything to get there. The first task involved in getting there is the mindset you will adopt daily. A true positive mindset is key in every success. To be happy every day with a purpose is so important. It gives you sustainability and strength. Nothing will get in your way. The energy you will need to fulfill your purpose is the passion you have. Life is full of experience. You cannot control what is externally influencing you on a daily basis. What you can control is the perception you have towards it.

We have to take a student’s mindset in life. We will take tests and fail but we get a chance to study more and the next day take a retake and pass. IF we wake the next day we will take into the new day the experience we need to succeed. The mindset we need to have every day is that we have a new day when we wake a new.